How To Know When A Guy Is Serious About You

One of the worst parts of relationships is when you realize that you and your partner are on completely different pages. It’s hard to like a guy more than they like you, which is why it’s important to be able to read his signs that he’s serious. While everyone approaches love differently, here are some of the ways you can tell he’s smitten with you.

  1. He texts you goodnight. If not that, he actually calls you on the phone to wish you a good night. He wants to be the last person you think about at the end of the day. Chances are, if you’re guessing his feelings, the two of you have yet to move in together. However, he’s more or less acting out what he’d say to you if he was physically by your side.
  2. He’s already talked about your future housing situation. You never want to rush moving in with someone. If it doesn’t work out, you may feel trapped. But when he thinks about the future, and what the plan is, he assumes the two of you will eventually be living together. This means that he sees you as being a long-term relationship. He knows that when you’re both under the same roof, the pairing is officially serious.
  3. You’ve met his parents. If he gets along well with his parents, consider meeting them to be an honor. He’d never let someone he wasn’t serious about meet mom and dad. Once you’re introduced, you also know that his family will be asking about you a lot. They’re forming their own opinions and they’re probably very good, especially if they catch the fact that their son has been much happier since you’ve been around.
  4. He rarely answers his phone when you’re around. Phones are a big part of how we socialize, but it’s still kind of rude if you’re out on a date with someone and he’s glued a screen. It makes it seem as if he’s not really paying attention to you and doesn’t value your time. A guy who’s serious will have his phone out for emergencies but won’t be scrolling through Instagram while you’re right there.
  5. If you have a question about anything he posts online, he happily explains. It’s important not to be jealous of any other women your partner may talk to. Unless they give you a reason to doubt their actions, you shouldn’t jump to that conclusion. That said, if you ask who’s been liking all their recent posts, he’ll have no problem telling you who it is. It may very well be a cousin or family member. He has nothing he wants to openly hide from you since he knows the best relationships are built around trust. If you can’t trust someone, your relationship is doomed.
  6. His friends already know your name. If you meet his friends, they’ll respond and say something like, “I’ve heard so much about you,” or “It’s great to finally meet you.” Guys like it when their friends find someone who makes them happy. If you have their approval, he’s definitely serious about being in a relationship with you.
  7. You’ve noticed your name is in his phone with a heart emoji. If not a heart, a smiley face. Not every guy will do this, and some may very well keep their contacts list looking professional. However, if he happened to add something cute to your contact information, he’s truly falling for you. It’s even better if the photo he assigned to your contact is either one of the two of you together, or a cute and flattering photo from a memorable date.
  8. He’s deleted a dating profile without telling you about it. It’s not like he wanted you to see the grand gesture. If you found him through a dating site, you’ll just realize he hasn’t been active in a long time. That’s because he seems to have found what he was looking for. You also won’t be able to find any traces of the app from his phone. He knows that if this relationship happens to crumble, it’s always something he can re-download. But why even swipe through other women when he’s made such a connection with you?
  9. You’ve already laughed about your first fight. Fights happen between all couples. It’s a way for two people to figure out each other’s boundaries, likes, and dislikes. With every fight, you should grow. You might remember your very first, and it’s something funny now, especially since it was a small issue you easily worked past. Relationships change and grow, and it’s serious progress when the two of you can both take accountability. When you’re in a good relationship, you don’t hold grudges. Instead, you learn from the fight and move forward together.
Karen Belz is a New Jersey native who is currently living in Maryland. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Speech Communication with a focus in Broadcasting and Print Media Studies from Millersville University of Pennsylvania. Since graduating, she has written for sites like LittleThings, HelloGiggles, and Scary Mommy and is currently an e-commerce editor at Bustle.

When she's not writing, she enjoys making her phone run out of memory after taking too many photos of her dog. You can find her on Twitter @karenebelz or on Instagram @karenbelz.