How To Know When A Guy Misses You, According To A Guy

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together. Everybody likes to know that your partner misses you when you’re not around. The problem is that guys don’t always come out and say that they feel this way. Rather than relying on him to just spit it out, you’re better off looking for the signs that he’s wishing you were there.

  1. He keeps texting. This one should be easy to spot. A guy who misses you is going to be eager to text you to share all of the important moments of his day. Frankly, even a lot of unimportant moments will be shared too. The frequency with which a guy texts you or how quickly he texts you back can tell you everything. A guy who texts “I miss you” but not much else may not mean it, but the frequency of his texts when you’re apart says it all.
  2. He doesn’t want to get off the phone. Calling always says more than texting, right? That’s especially true if a guy doesn’t want to hang up. If he keeps looking for ways to make conversation even if he’s not good at, it should be clear he misses you.
  3. He asks a lot of questions. This may come off as nosy and annoying, but it’s one way that guys show they miss you and care about you. Would you prefer a guy who doesn’t care enough to ask about your life? Trust me, he doesn’t ask about the details of your day if he doesn’t miss you. Granted, you might be annoyed by it, but he’s only annoying you because he wishes he was with you.
  4. He’s all over your social media. There’s a fine line between stalking someone and missing them. Sometimes a guy who genuinely misses you will play jump rope with that line. He’ll be liking and commenting on your posts non-stop. He may even start looking at pictures you posted months or years ago. I understand if that’s just a little bit weird, but remember that a guy who misses you just wants to stay connected to you any way he can. Stalking you on social media is just one method of doing that.
  5. He wants pictures. This doesn’t necessarily mean he’s begging you to send him sexy pics. I mean, that might be part of the motivation and he’s not going to say no if you offer. However, a guy who misses you just dying to see you. He wants to see your face to see if he can tell that you feel the same. Of course, if you do, sending a sexy selfie isn’t a bad idea.
  6. He’s making reunion plans. When a guy seriously misses you, he’s already looking forward to the minute he gets to see you next. In fact, he’ll be making plans to take you on a date as soon as possible. Any guy can say he can’t wait to see you, right?
  7. He’s in a bad mood. Granted, all kinds of things can put someone in a bad mood, but if he seems genuinely is at a loss without you, don’t be surprised if he’s in a bad mood. After all, he wants to be with you and he’s not. Being apart from you is putting a damper on things and putting him in a bad mood. If a guy seems a little disgruntled while you’re talking to him, it’s possible he just misses you.
  8. He brings up the past. When a guy is away from someone he cares about, he tends to think about the past. When you talk to him, does he bring up the good times you’ve had together? If so, he definitely misses you. After all, if he can’t make new memories with you, he’ll want to focus on the old ones.
  9. You get plenty of drunk texts/calls. Come on, ladies, don’t act as if you’ve never sent drunk texts to a guy you were missing. Well, those drunk dials and texts can go in the other direction too. I think we all know that drinking tends to lower our inhibitions and lets the truth out a little more. If he has a couple of drinks, he may not be able to stop himself from texting or calling.
  10. He’s more jealous than usual. Jealousy isn’t a good look for anybody, but a guy who genuinely misses you can lose his mind a little bit. For what it’s worth, I’ve noticed similar behavior from some of you ladies out there. When you can’t be around a person you care about, it’s hard not to feel jealous of the people who are around that person. In that sense, missing you can come across as jealousy. Of course, if a guy is jealous all the time this doesn’t really count. If it’s come out of the blue, that’s probably what’s up.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.