If you’re dating a girl and you’re totally crazy about her, it’s natural that you want to make her as happy as she makes you. Thankfully, you don’t even have to be in the same room to put a grin on her face that matches your own. By doing the following things, she’ll totally melt simply by reading words on a screen. Here’s how to make a girl smile over text. Trust me, it’s easier than you think.
- Compliment her loads. This might seem obvious to some, but believe me, it does not go without saying. So many men take their relationships and the women in their life for granted. This article isn’t just about romantic relationships, either. You need to express gratitude to your sisters, your cousins, your mothers, and whoever else you see. It’s not just romantic partners who are worthy of attention, or who want it. I am a firm believer that we should all compliment the people in our lives more than we do.
- Be honest. There’s nothing worse than receiving a compliment that seems fake or disingenuous. It means that if you focus your compliment from a place of honesty and truth, they will know the difference. Women aren’t all so vain that we just want to hear the same thing every time, either. You should have a roster of compliments up your sleeve, not because you had to prepare them ahead of time, but because you’ve actually thought them over time. This makes all the difference. For instance, telling her she has a wonderful, giving personality rather than just admiring her legs is a great place to start.
- Don’t run hot and cold. There’s nothing like the chase, I get that. But you have to grow out of that phase. When you’re no longer teenagers on the playground, it’s less and less appropriate to make someone chase you for inconstant affection. If you like someone, claim that feeling. Make it known – don’t hide. Men and women should both be able to express their emotions and communicate how important people are to them.
- Try good morning texts. Your life will get so much easier when you do. Maybe you don’t think it’s a particularly meaningful gesture, but if a girl communicates to you that she wants you to do that and you do, what’s wrong with that? You make her happy and it costs you nothing. Win-win. It means you set a precedent and you demonstrate that you’re listening to her needs. That will make her smile every morning.
- Don’t forget good night texts either. Just like she’ll love knowing that she’s on your mind when you open your eyes in the morning, there’s no doubt that she’ll also swoon knowing that she’s the last thing you think of before you switch off for the night. Even a quick “good night, sleep tight” message will be seen as adorable and put a smile right across her face. She’ll definitely have sweet dreams!
- Send her a good meme. This is a great, low-effort way to bond. You can gel over your shared ‘for you page’ on TikTok or on an old Discord server. Either way, you will have a blast from the past or bond over cute dogs and random internet remixes. If anything, the more obscure, the better. It shows that you’re complex and interesting and you’ll be laughing in minutes.
- Be consistent. Show her that you’re interested in her and that you want to make her smile. This will lead to smarter, better communication. That will strengthen your relationship and make it more likely to stand the test of time. Try new things out and practice what works. Easy.
- Ask for her feelings/opinion on something important to you. If you want to incorporate her into your life long-term, what better way than to consider her perspective when thinking about/discussing things that are important to you? If you want to make a girl smile over text, ask her what she thinks about you going for a new position that’s just opened up at your job or if she thinks it’s a good time to start house-hunting. She’ll love knowing that you value her thoughts and opinions and it’ll definitely bring you closer.
- Put the effort in. It’s like Tan France says on Queer Eye: make the effort. It’s as simple as that, really. If you don’t care about the girl, you won’t try to make her smile. You have to make an activity or put yourself on the line to get her laughing if you really care. The easiest way to do this is by simply sending more than one-word texts or messages that don’t require an answer or try to strike up (or continue) a conversation.
- Let her know she’s on your mind. Who doesn’t like to hear that the person they’re seeing can’t stop thinking about them? It’s one of the most heartwarming, flattering things they can say. By telling her that you can’t get her out of your head or that you’ve been thinking of her all day, you’re bound to make this girl smile.
- Ask her out. If you run out of indirect or covert gestures, why not just keep it simple? Just ask her out. Start simple, if you’re unsure – coffee. By the time you’re on your second date, you can scale up to lunch, and then to dinner and drinks. By then you will be well on your way to being the reason they smile every day. How about that!
In conclusion: the very simple way of making sure you get your girl to smile is just to be genuine, upfront, and put a little effort in. Pay attention to the things you know that make her happy and then find a way to bring them to her. The fact you want her to be happy so much probably also means that you’re halfway there already (and that you love her, by the way).
