Wouldn’t it be great if there was a magic potion or spell that meant someone would fall in love with us with the snap of a finger? In a non-creepy way, hopefully. At least then we’d know that they meant it and weren’t just trying to trick us into giving our heart to them. All this to say, trying to figure out whether the person we’re interested in is interested in us or not, it’s so stressful. Here are a few ways you can whittle down the process, save yourself some time, and make a guy fall in love with you.
- Communicate. There’s nothing sexier than communication, trust me. More than that, guys don’t realize that having their needs met is easier than they think. If you think about it, it’s almost like a cheat code-Â just asking for the answers. Check in with him regularly and see what he needs out of the relationship. This will serve as the perfect time to reassert what you want out of the relationship too. It’s a win-win, and he’ll will feel so mature and adult. The key is that he loves the version of himself that he is when he’s with you. This may or may not make the guy fall in love with you as well.
- Don’t be afraid to start the conversation. Send the first text. Don’t get hung up on dated gender roles or relationship standards. Make your own rules, and use your instincts. If you’re thinking about them, message them. It’s refreshing to not have to play all the relationship games. It’s not something that you can win or lose – it’s all about the journey. Put that on a poster. But, for real – it takes the pressure off him to start everything all the time. Maybe sometimes you ask him out and propose a date. We can’t expect guys to foot the bill if we aren’t willing to go through the same. It takes courage to ask someone out, even if you’re sure of the answer. Acknowledge that.
- Be bold. Get a new haircut, try on some new clothes. Maybe mix it up with the styles that you haven’t ever really experimented with. This will amp up your confidence and spontaneity and filter into the relationship. You will keep your guy on his toes and he’ll go crazy chasing after you.
- Play hard to get. Is this a cliche? Maybe. But does it work? Heck yeah. The important thing to remember is that this is all a bit of fun and a way of reminding him about what he’s missing. It’s a little look into power dynamics and reasserting your own power in the relationship. Don’t be cruel or leave him on read for days, otherwise, he’ll think you’re uninterested and you will waste your own time. If you want to make a guy fall in love with you, you’ll have to be clever about it.
- Hang out with his friends. If you aren’t sure that you have lots in common at the start, try hanging out in a group with his friends. This is an easy, low-pressure way of getting to know him without the awkward small talk. He’ll be at ease too, so you will see another side to him, as he will you. Plus, if is friends are crazy about you, it’ll be more likely to make the guy fall in love with you.
- Give him space. This sets a healthy boundary to the relationship. No one wants to be smothered, so you can take your own space too without feeling like you’re running away. There’s a delicate balance that is so important to maintain between intimacy and reflection. You all need time apart and with other people, it keeps us grounded.
- Send memes. It’s such a simple, free gesture that means you’re thinking about someone. You can also show them your goofy humor and the personality that you might hide from the outside world. It’s a little more familiar than just a text, and sending memes can really make a person’s day.
- Focus on small gestures. Don’t worry about big public romantic scenes from the rom-com. You don’t have to plan too far in advance or break the bank in order to meet your partner’s needs. Just bring back toilet paper without asking when you run out, and bring them ice cream when they’re sad. Emotions are complex but when you know a person it’s much easier to get a read and they’ll love you for it. You don’t have to be crazy to figure out what your partner wants.
- Communicate – in the bedroom. The key to a happy sex life is the key to a happy life in general. I return you once more to the opening advice – be honest with what you want and how you want it, and they will make it happen.
Take all these options with a pinch of salt and good luck. Remember, if you want a way to impress the woman in your life, guys, these points still stand!
