How To Make A Guy Love You More, According To A Guy

If you have a steady boyfriend, fiance, or husband, you’ve surely found a guy who loves you. Of course, there are always ways to make him love you just a little more. If that’s on your list of relationship goals, here are some ways that you can get a guy’s feelings for you even more intense than they already are, from a guy’s perspective.

  1. Try new things. You never want things in your relationship to get stale, and guys always love it when a woman takes the initiative to ensure that they don’t. That means trying new things together. Part of the goal is to find new interests that the two of you can share, which will help bring you closer together. The more you have in common and can enjoy doing the same things, the more a guy will love you.
  2. Cook for him. This is such a cliche that you should already know about, but it never hurts to remind you that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Guys will always love a woman who cooks for them. Every time you make his favorite dish, he’ll adore you a little more. If you’re not blessed with natural cooking skills, just try to master one thing he likes, even if it’s simple and easy to make.
  3. Accept/love him for who he is. More than almost anything, guys just want love and acceptance. We also hate it when you try to change us. We don’t want to be with someone who feels like they need to turn us into someone we’re not. Obviously, we all have flaws and idiosyncrasies, and we love it when you go out of your way to let us know that you appreciate those quirks rather than try to change them.
  4. Support his interests. If you don’t like sports or monster trucks or horror movies, don’t fake interest in them. Instead, just accept and encourage his investment in the things he likes. Don’t act like you’re bored when he talks about those things. Just be excited about the fact that he’s excited about them. Trust me, most guys will notice this and we’ll love you a little more for it.
  5. Spend some time apart. Obviously, this shouldn’t become the norm, but spending a little time apart can make the heart grow fonder. If you give a guy some space when he needs it, he’ll start to miss you and love you even more when you’re back together. Plus, you could probably use a little time away from him too. Doing your own thing for a bit can serve as a good reminder of all of the things you love about each other.
  6. Brag about him. While he might be a little embarrassed, he’ll secretly love it when you brag about him in front of friends and family. If he accomplished something professionally or even if he just did something nice, let other people know about it. Deep down, all guys want their partners to be proud of them. If you can find a way to express that in front of people, he’ll fall even harder.
  7. Get along with his friends. It’s crazy how much anxiety a guy can feel when his special lady doesn’t get along with his friends or vice versa. If if you’re not a huge fan of his friends, do your best to find common ground and get along with them. It will be such a relief if you’re cool and drama-free with the people he’s closest to.
  8. Flirt and tease. I know this stuff tends to wane the deeper you get into a relationship, but do your best to prevent that from happening. I know it takes some effort to flirt with a guy you’ve known for so many years and see every day, but he’ll adore you even more when you keep acting flirtatious with him. Plus, it should be something that both of you can enjoy.
  9. Be open-minded in bed. We all know that sex is important to men, so needless to say, he’ll love you even more if you’re willing to be adventurous and try new things in bed. I want to stress that this doesn’t mean you have to say yes to everything. Never feel like you have to do something that makes you uncomfortable, but make it clear to him that you’re willing to at least consider anything he wants to try.
  10. Give him daily hugs. Okay, I know this sounds stupid and cheesy, but it will work with a lot of guys. Well, at least the genuine and caring ones who aren’t jerks. Giving him at least one hug a day that’s heartfelt and genuine can be a great way to make him feel closer to you. It gives him the affection he needs and reminds him how much you two love each other.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.