In the early stages of a relationship, it’s tempting to spend every waking moment with your new beau. After all, it’s so fun and exciting getting to know each other, right? That said, it’s a healthier option to keep your distance on a regular basis—and better yet, make him miss you when you’re apart. Here’s how to do it.
Live your life.
Act like he doesn’t exist. I don’t mean that in a rude way, but I mean you should carry on living your life as if he wasn’t in it just as you did before he was Sure, it sounds extreme, but guys love it when you give them “I don’t care” vibes. It makes them want you even more. Trust me, I’ve been there. Several times. However, the most important reason to do this is that it allows you to maintain your own identity which is vital even if things work out long-term.
Don’t text him first all the time.
Even though it’s super tempting, avoid being the first one to text or call after you’ve recently seen each other. This will make him wonder where you are—and if he’s wondering where you are, he’s probably missing you. That’s not to say you should leave it up to him to make every move, but making yourself scarce sometimes is never a bad idea.
Don’t be waiting by the phone.
Likewise, don’t be the girl who’s always hanging around waiting for him to call or text. Get on with what you’ve got to do, keep yourself busy, and trust that your bond is strong enough for him to come to you eventually. I guarantee that he will, even if it takes a little longer than you originally thought. If he doesn’t, I’m sorry to tell you that he wasn’t that into you anyway.
Try to avoid constant communication.
When he does contact you and you’re catching up virtually, it’s important not to bombard him with a constant stream of messages. If he gets the sense that you’re needy, pressuring him, or relying on him in any way, he’ll likely run a mile in the beginning. That’s just what it’s like to date a guy in the digital age. A few messages a day will keep it casual, but phone calls morning, lunchtime, and evening are a bit excessive whether you’ve been in a relationship for two weeks or two months.
Make him make the first move to meet up.
If you truly want to make him miss you, leave it up to him to take initiative and do all the planning and arranging when it comes to dates and catch-ups. I mean, there’s something about a girl who seems uninterested that makes a guy want to chase and “obtain” her. If the chase isn’t there, he loses interest. Fast.
Don’t always be available.
For that matter, don’t always be available when your guy suggests meeting up. It’s important he realizes that you have a life outside of your relationship. This doesn’t mean that you should tell him that you’re not free even when you are. It just means that you shouldn’t leave gaps in your schedule “just in case” he might offer to meet up on a particular day. If he likes you as much as you think he does, don’t worry—he will wait until you’re ready to see him.
Be active on social media.
If your beau sees that you have a rich, fulfilling life (both offline and online) then they will only want to be a part of that. Be sure to post pictures of you having a good time regularly on your social media accounts, whether this is Instagram, Facebook, or whatever, and this will only make him miss you more. After all, doesn’t everyone want to spend time with a happy person who seems to be living a full, positive existence?
Focus on other relationships.
If you find yourself missing him and struggling to make him miss you, just focus on your other relationships for now. I’m not saying that you should date every new guy you come across. I’m just saying that you should be open to a bit of flirting and avoid putting all your eggs into one basket, so-to-speak. You can also spend any extra time you have with your friends and family to strengthen all the relationships in your life.
Make the time that you spend together amazing.
Last of all, if you really want him to miss you when you’re apart, be sure to make the time that you spend together incredible. This means that he will always look forward to the next time he’s going to see you, whether this is in two days or two weeks’ time. It also means that you’ll both have great memories to reflect upon and treasure until the next time you see each other. And it will get you both through the time that you’re not together until you can be together again.
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