For those of you who are interested in a long-term relationship, getting a guy to commit can feel like a never-ending battle. It’s one thing to trick or pressure a guy into committing, but it’s another thing to get him to want to do it all on his own. Needless to say, the latter is preferable but a lot more difficult. Here are some ways you can do it without any trickery or manipulation needed.
- Show patience. Patience will always be the biggest key in getting a guy to commit. We’re always going to lag behind you ladies in the commitment department. I’m sorry, that’s just the way it is. Just accept that when you’re ready to make a commitment, your guy probably won’t be there just yet. You have to give him time and space to get there. Of course, there’s a difference between being patient and showing patience. Don’t pressure him and don’t be passive-aggressive when talking about it. Give a guy the space to get there on his own and he’ll eventually want to commit rather than feeling pressured into it.
- Be confident. He may like you, but he probably doesn’t like the side of you that’s clingy. He’s not going to be eager to commit if he thinks you’re too needy. Instead, you need to exude confidence and being comfortable in your own skin. Guys like that and want to be with a woman like that. Don’t you like confidence in a man? Well, it goes both ways.
- Give good body language. Your mood and body language can be critical in making a guy want to commit. Try to smile, make eye contact, and look like you’re having fun when you two are together. Guys will feed off that and will not shy away from making a commitment because they’ll want to be around you all the time. If your body language is sad and mopey, he won’t want to be around you, and certainly not long-term.
- Understand him on a deeper level. Don’t take this the wrong way, but it’s not that hard to find someone you want to date. However, making a commitment to someone is something entirely different. To make a guy want to commit, you have to show him that you’re different from everyone else. Show him that you know him on a deeper level. Convince him that you understand his hopes and dreams and what makes him tick. It’s not enough that you both like hiking and the same pizza topping. A guy will want to commit when he knows the relationship goes deeper.
- Get his friends and family to like you. Few things will make a guy feel comfortable with commitment than having the approval of his friends and family. If you can win them over, a guy will be all-in. Keep in mind that his friends have been around longer than you. If you can’t make them like you, a guy is never going to feel comfortable committing to you. On the other hand, if you can get them to like you, then his friends will be the ones encouraging him to “lock her down” and commit to you.
- Spend some time apart. Sometimes spending a little time apart can make a guy realize that he never wants to be without you. Going on a vacation without him or disappearing for a couple of days without telling him can remind him of what he’s missing when you’re not around. Admittedly, this isn’t the most mature approach, but it can work wonders.
- Look your best. Yes, all guys are shallow and superficial. We all know this, so let’s just accept it. Having said that, looking your best for a guy can make him want to commit to you. This doesn’t mean you have to treat every day like it’s the prom, but eating healthy and exercising regularly can let a guy know that you care about being healthy and looking your best for him (and frankly, for yourself). It can also help you shake off your insecurities and feel confident, which will push a guy toward wanting to commit.
- Prove he can trust you. In the end, commitment comes down to trust. When a guy knows he can trust you, he won’t be afraid of making a commitment to you. It’s the certainty that he can trust you that will help push him over the edge and want to commit to you. Granted, it’s not the most exciting thing, but it can be the difference between dating for a while and settling down into something long-term. Even if he fell in love with your spontaneity, he wants his serious girlfriend to be someone he can trust without question.