How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup

The relationship’s over but your feelings for him are still there. It would be great if he could miss you and realize what he’s lost. Sure, it’s petty, but it would just provide a little vindication. Maybe all is not lost. Here are easy ways to make him miss you.

  1. Resist the temptation to call him. You miss him like crazy, but back off a bit so that he can realize how empty his life is without you in it. That can only happen if you give him a chance to miss you!
  2. Tell his friends how great you are. You’re out shopping when you bump into one of your ex’s friends. She asks how you are and you’re tempted to tell her how hard it’s been to go through the breakup. Don’t! She’s going to report back to him that you’re so sad, and you don’t want him to think you’re crying in a corner. Rather tell her how great you’re feeling. Let him wonder why that is the case…
  3. Post a few selfies. Now, you don’t want to go crazy with the selfies, but it can’t hurt to show him how happy and gorgeous you look without him. Men are visual creatures, so this will have a positive impact on him.
  4. Don’t answer his texts right away. If he happens to text you to ask how you’re doing, avoid replying within five seconds and giving him TMI about your life. Let him wait a little bit so that he misses you and sees that you’re not going to jump whenever he calls. Be a bit of a challenge for him as that will be much more interesting in his eyes.
  5. Show him you’re living your best life. When you run into him, don’t race for the nearest exit so he doesn’t see you. Show him that you’re looking healthy and having fun in your life. Let him see what he gave up. Even if it kills you inside to have to act confident and happy, do it because he’ll remember just how happy he always felt in your presence.
  6. Remind him of your inside jokes. Now, provided he still likes to chat every now and then, it can be a good idea to remind him – in a totally subtle way – of your previous connection. An example could be to throw in one of your inside jokes during a text convo. Don’t overdo it with the nostalgia, though. You don’t want him to think you’re trying to convince him to get back together with you.
  7. Be vague about your dating life. If he happens to ask you if there’s any interesting guys on the horizon, don’t tell him “No!” before going on about how much you miss him. It won’t hurt to make him see that you’re moving on and not waiting around for him. You really don’t have to make him jealous by some hypothetical BF who’s in your life, but maintaining some mystery will drive him wild.
  8. Go on dates with other men. This isn’t something to do when your ex is paying attention, but something you should do to take your mind off your ex. Have you ever experienced how weird it is when you try to forget about someone and that’s when they come running back? It’s weird, and it sometimes works. Even if your ex doesn’t get in touch, dating other guys will help you to see there’s a whole world out there that doesn’t include him.
  9. Cut convos short. When your ex phones to chat, don’t talk to him for hours or until he ends the call. End it before him, telling him that you have to go get ready for an outing. Don’t let him think that you’re so needy you’re always able to clear out hours in your schedule for him. You have a life!
  10. Show him you’re having fun. While you’re posting a few selfies of yourself looking your best and glowing, it can’t hurt to show him some snaps of yourself out with friends having a totally rocking time. The best bit about this is that you actually have to go out there and enjoy yourself. But that’s a good thing because your life shouldn’t stop just because your relationship has come to an end. It’s only just beginning.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.