How To Make Him Want To Be With You — It’s Easy!

If you’re trying to nail a guy down, there are things you can do to make him want you more. It can be a bit of trial and error since every guy is different, but if you use the following tips, he’ll definitely be intrigued. Here’s how to make a guy want to be with you.

  1. Show off your confidence. It’s been said a million times, but confidence is sexy. You’re more likely to catch his attention (and keep it) if you’re resonating with confidence and independence. Even if your mind is buzzing with questions about if he likes you, don’t let him know. Don’t shy away from making eye contact, initiating physical affection, and being direct with your words. It’ll pay off.
  2. Be open to new things.  Spontaneity is another attractive quality, so work on being open and go with the flow. You want your love interest to think about all the adventures you could have together. Don’t act high-maintenance or turned off by things outside of your comfort zone. Rather, be willing to try new things, which will show of your confidence and adventurous spirit.
  3. Express care for him. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t seem to care for them. To stand out to your love interest, you want to let him know he’s important to you. Ask how his day went, especially if you know something big or stressful is going on or offer to bring him food if you’re out grabbing a bite. When he realizes how much you care for him, he’ll begin to see what a catch you are and won’t want to let you slip away.
  4. Be interested in his life. Don’t just show that you care about his well-being. It’s important to also be interested in what he’s got going on. Ask about this work or school or have questions about his passions and hobbies. This lets him know you’re compatible and will help him begin to visualize you being a regular part of his life.
  5. Leave the drama alone.  Playing games is a big turn-off for men. It’s a sign of immaturity and self-absorption. He won’t want to be with you if he thinks it’s going to be filled with drama. So, make sure you’re direct with your feelings when dealing with him. Likewise, avoid reiterating petty drama to him, even if he’s not involved. He won’t want to be with someone who gossips or talks badly about their friends. The rule of thumb is to leave the drama out of your love life.

How to make him want to be with you

  1. Step up your flirting game.  You can’t just wait and expect the guy to make the first move. Men aren’t mind readers – he may never realize you’re into him if you’re not making an effort. If you really want to get his attention, step up your flirting game. Don’t be afraid to send him a message or say something spicy. There needs to be chemistry for him to want to commit to you. So, give him a tease of all the fun you could have together.
  2. Watch your body language. Don’t just be flirty with your words but also your body language. Go out of your way to make physical contact – brush his thigh with your hand, or touch his shoulder when in conversation. Not only will this be a turn-on, but it’ll get his mind thinking about all the other physical things you could do together.
  3. Dress to impress.  If you’re putting extra effort into how you look, then he’s going to take notice. It’s not just about putting on a bold lip color or sultry dress – dressing up will boost your confidence, and he’ll take notice. It’s an easy way to get his attention and to keep it on you.
  4. Be mysterious, not clingy. One of the worst things you can do is to be clingy, Love Panky notes. You may want to spend every moment you can with him, but this isn’t going to translate well. It’ll come across as desperate and immature if you’re too all-over him, which will be a turn-off. It’s natural to feel more drawn to something you can’t have or is hard to attain – that’s why they say to play hard to get. You want to maintain a bit of mystery, so he keeps thinking of you. He’ll be increasingly curious about you and will be more motivated to get to know you and see where things go.
  5. Keep things spicy.   Finally, as Your Tango recommends, don’t hold back your sexiness. You want your love interest to think about all the things you could do if you’re together, and you want to be the only woman in his head. Whether you’re already hooking up or just having steamy conversations, keeping things spicy is a sure-fire way to maintain his interest in pursuing things further. But don’t give him everything at once – you want him to become increasingly turned on and excited so that things last in the long term.

Alexandra is a freelance writer in Montreal, Quebec. She enjoys shopping as a sport, Buffy the Vampire Slayer re-runs, and being a plant mom.