I don’t care if you had your first kiss behind the school bleachers when you were 13—not everyone knows how to make out properly and with passion even as an adult. It doesn’t come easy, after all. It requires good technique, the right approach, and willingness to adapt to your partner. Even if you’re pretty good when it comes to locking lips, we can all use a refresher now and then. Here’s how to have the hottest make-out session ever.
- Pace yourself. The most important thing to remember when it comes to knowing how to make out is remembering that you’re not in any rush. It’s important not to go straight in for the kill too quickly or to rush the process. This is supposed to be a sensual, sexy experience for both of you, so it’s important to take your time and let it flow naturally.
- Lick your lips as you make eye contact. Before you actually kiss him, you can let him know what’s on your mind by licking your lips to get them all wet and glistening and looking briefly into his eyes. Sure, the eye contact can be hot when it’s long and intense, but that’s not really necessary for a great make-out session. Just meet his gaze and give him “the eyes” (don’t play, you know which ones I mean!) before you go for it.
- Move in and gently place your lips on his. When you’re ready, incline your body towards his and touch your lips against his. Do this gently, slowly, and almost imperceptibly at first before putting more pressure and intention behind it. This will help you figure out how to make out with him based on his personal kissing style as you get used to one another.
- Use your hands. Don’t just let your hands hang limply in your lap or by your sides – get them involved! If you feel awkward when figuring out how to get them involved as you make out, a good option is running your hands through his hair or wrapping your arms around his neck to pull him closer. You can also trace his jawline with your fingers. Whatever feels right, give it a try.
- Adjust to his style and pace. While you’re the one initiating the make out, that doesn’t mean you have to control how it goes the entire time. Read his body language and his style. If he tries to slow things down for a beat, meet him there. If he gets more passionate involved, feel free to unleash yourself a bit and go for it too.
- Change the position of your head sometimes. No one likes a stiff kiss, so make sure you move your head back and forth and adjust your position every now and again. This keeps the energy flowing between you and lets you get different angles on the kiss. You’ll also ensure that you don’t end up with neck ache by staying in one position for too long, which is always a good thing.
- Take breaks for air. Yes, this article is about how to make out with a guy, but part of that is knowing when to come up for air. You might have your tongues down one another’s throats for much of your make-out session, but you’ll also need to breathe at some point, so take natural intervals to break apart and actually get some oxygen into your lungs before going back for more.
- Don’t be afraid to speak up. Those breaks you take to catch your breath can be a good time to up the ante on the hotness of your make-out session by whispering something to him that you know will turn him on. It could be something as simple as “You’re so sexy” or “God, I love kissing you.” Anything that shows him how into the moment you are will work.
- Involve his neck and face. Who says his lips are the only part of him that can get in on the action? There may come a time as you make out when it feels right to kiss his neck or his cheeks or even beneath his ears. Men have erogenous zones that need attention too, so don’t be afraid to branch out.
- Leave him wanting more. When it feels natural or you know he’s getting a little too excited and you want to leave it there, it’s equally important to know how to end a make-out and leave him wanting more. Chances are, he’ll be so into what you just did that he won’t be able to wait to do it again. Hopefully you’ll feel the same!
