How To Not Be Boring In A Relationship When The Honeymoon Phase Is Over

The honeymoon phase is the most exciting time in a relationship. Everything is fresh and new, you’re desperate to know everything about each other, you can’t keep your hands off each other, and you don’t want to be apart for a single second. However, once you’ve been together for a while and moved into a more balanced stage, it’s easy to start getting complacent and this can lead to both you and your partner feeling a bit… blah. Here’s how to not be boring once the honeymoon phase is over.

  1. Make the little things exciting. Just because you’re two adults with lots of responsibilities doesn’t mean you can’t still have fun. Make grocery shopping more enjoyable by exploring local markets with more unique ingredients. Go to the gym together and take a Zumba class or something else that’s out of both your comfort zones. If nothing else, putting a twist on the classics, so to speak, will give you more to talk about and keep you from being too boring.
  2. Be open to adventure. You don’t need to love bungee jumping or skydiving to embark on an adventure. Plan a hiking expedition in a nature area close to where you live or take a last-minute weekend city break just because you can. Spontaneity isn’t always an option, of course, but when it is, you should grab it with both hands. There’s nothing boring about that!
  3. Have a full life outside of your relationship. How can you expect to have anything to talk about if all you do is spend time with each other? Invest in your relationships with your friends and family, have hobbies and interests that don’t involve your partner, and focus on self-care to ensure you’re feeling whole on your own. This will ensure you keep things interesting and have a lot more to offer your relationship. Not only that, but if your relationship fails, you can rest assured you’ll be just fine on your own.
  4. Don’t forget about sex. While you’re not going to be jumping each other’s bones every five seconds as you get further into your relationship and real life takes over, that doesn’t mean you should forget about intimacy altogether. Keep sex exciting by being open to experimentation and making one another a priority. This kind of connection will keep things from getting stagnant, without a doubt.
  5. Embrace the downtime. At the end of the day, sometimes things are going to be boring. That’s just life, and you can’t (nor should you try to) be the life of the party 24/7. It’s important to be able to embrace these bits of downtime as normal and even find the comfort and joy in them. It means you’re happy together, and isn’t that the most exciting thing of all?
Bolde has been a source of dating and relationship advice for single women around the world since 2014. We combine scientific data, experiential wisdom, and personal anecdotes to provide help and encouragement to those frustrated by the journey to find love. Follow us on Instagram @bolde_media or on Facebook @BoldeMedia
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