When you’ve been hurt a lot in the past, it’s hard to welcome someone new into your life. You might have an inability to trust anyone because you’re worried about history repeating itself. When you finally do give love another shot, watch out for these signs to know if it’s really the real thing.
- It feels different from anything you’ve ever experienced. You’ll know that it’s real when it doesn’t feel real. By that I mean that it almost feels too good to be true. In the past, you might have believed that you were in love, but it’s only when you really experience love for the first time that you recognize how different it feels. It’s not hard work. It’s not complicated. It’s not uncomfortable. It’s so easy and uncomplicated that it will make you question why you wasted so much time with the wrong people.
- They don’t disappear for days at a time. If you’ve dated someone who’s taken days or sometimes weeks to reply to your messages then you’ll know just how agonizing and frustrating it is. It makes you question how much you can mean to someone if they can’t take a few minutes out of their day to talk to you. Someone who loves you and wants to get to know you won’t leave you wondering. They’ll want to spend their free time talking to you and checking up on you. That’s how it’s meant to be.
- It doesn’t leave you questioning everything. If you’ve ever felt like you were in love with the wrong person then you’ll know how stressful it can be. You’ll be familiar with the insecurities, the agonizing over whether they feel the way that you do, the nights when you cried yourself to sleep because you had your heart broken. Real love shouldn’t be painful, it should be refreshing.
- They appreciate all of your efforts. Someone who really loves you will always show you their appreciation. Always. If they regularly say thank you when you do something for them and make an effort to show you that they are grateful for the things that you do, then you’ll know that it’s real.
- You learn the importance of honesty. We all know how important it is to be honest when you’re in a relationship, but not everyone puts it into practice. Some people think that they’re being honest even when they are holding a lot back from their partner. You know it’s something special when you don’t need to ask, when they voluntarily open up to you about things that you didn’t have to force out of them. You also find yourself wanting to tell them things that you might not have told others.
- They want to know everything about you. You’ll know it’s different from anything you’ve experienced when they don’t stop trying to learn new things about you. They won’t be satisfied until they know every little thing about you, even the things that you might try and hide. Once the person you’re dating stops asking you questions and stops making an effort to find out things, that’s when the love fizzles out.
- They bring out the best in you. Ever dated someone who made you feel like the worst version of yourself because you were constantly arguing and asking for more than they could give you? Yeah, that’s not what you’re looking for. When it’s real love, you bring out the best in each other and you work out whatever problem crops up. If your partner isn’t someone who motivates you and inspires you, it’s simply not the real thing.
- They pick you up instead of bringing you down. The big difference between a love that is real and a love that isn’t is this: they make you happy more than they make you sad. Someone who often makes you cry or second-guess your feelings doesn’t love you the way that you need them to. Love is one of the most incredible feelings that you can experience and it really shouldn’t have to hurt for you to know that’s it’s real.
- You don’t question your self-worth. Anyone who makes you question your importance is not someone who you should waste another second thinking about, just so you know. When you experience real love, it’s honest and it’s pure. It doesn’t make you feel like you’re not good enough, or that you’re simply “too much” for someone to love. You are enough just as you are. Someone who loves you won’t stop until they can make you see the things that they love most about you.
