It would be great to find a partner, but doing so is easier said than done. It takes time and energy in order to find your match, and if you insist that you’re simply “too busy” to date and look for love, it’s never going to happen. If you don’t fancy the idea of being single forever and would like to actually enjoy some intimacy with another human being, here are some tips for rejigging your priorities a bit.
- Incorporate dating into your hobbies sometimes. Just because you’re already living a full life with a busy career, plenty of hobbies and pastimes, and lots of social engagements doesn’t mean you’re too busy to date. There’s a way to incorporate your search for love into the stuff you’re already doing. For example, maybe you’re taking a cooking class every week or you’re interested in doing so. Who says there won’t be a few eligible bachelors or bachelorettes once you’re there? That’s not to say you should go on the prowl during every social activity, but there’s no reason you couldn’t meet someone doing the stuff you love doing already. Plus, at least you know you’ll have stuff in common!
- Reevaluate your priorities. When thinking about why you’re still single, especially if you don’t want to be, it’s important to get real with yourself about whether you’ve actually been putting in the work or even making yourself available for love. If you constantly tell your friends/parents/anyone else that you’re too busy to date or for a relationship, you’re likely kidding yourself. If you prefer being single and want to stay that way, that’s fine. However, if finding a meaningful romantic relationship is important to you, you’ll have to switch your priorities around a bit.
- Set aside some time for dating, no matter how limited. Even if you are legitimately someone with a really hectic schedule with not much spare time, you can change things around a bit to make time for dating. Maybe you don’t actually need to be in two book clubs and by cutting one out, you can use that spare Tuesday evening for going on a date with someone you’ve matched with on an app. You don’t need to make dating a full-time job, just make a little room for it in your life.
- Keep your eyes open. It’s possible that you’re coming across potential partners in many areas of your life already but you’re just not paying attention. If you’re so myopic that you can only see directly what’s in front of you, it’s possible to miss out on so many amazing things, not least of which is love. Keep your eyes and heart open and you never know what or who may come along.
- Make a few chops to your schedule if necessary. At the end of the day, even someone who’s too busy for dating can make time for it if they really want to. If it means cutting things out that you really enjoy doing solo so that you can maybe meet a romantic partner, so be it. If finding love is a priority, you do what you have to do, right?
