How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Your Ex’s New Girlfriend

If you were in your last relationship for a while, it only makes sense that you’d be curious about your ex’s new girlfriend when he finally moves on. However, there’s a very thin line between wanting to know who he’s dating now and becoming downright obsessed with her. If you can’t stop comparing yourself to her and feeling bad about yourself and your relationship with your ex-boyfriend, here are some things you can do to move on.

Recognize that your relationship was unique.

There’s no sense comparing yourself to your ex’s new girlfriend since chances are, your relationships are nothing alike. The things you shared with your former boyfriend and what you went through will be nothing like the experiences he has with her, most likely. Your relationship was between the two of you and can therefore never be replicated.

Resist the urge to stalk her on social media.

Being obsessed with your ex’s new girlfriend is a whole lot harder if you’re not reading her every post on Facebook and scrolling through all of her Instagram photos. As hard as it is, avoid the urge to go down that rabbit hole because it won’t serve you in any way. Block her if you need to – no shame in self-preservation.

Don’t inquire about the details of their relationship.

If you have mutual friends who know her, don’t ask them what she’s like – you don’t need to know. It doesn’t matter if she’s funny, if she backpacked around Europe on a gap year, if she always shops at Zara, whatever. You can’t compare yourself to your ex’s girlfriend if you know very little about her, can you?

Celebrate all of your unique qualities.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how perfect she seems or how great their relationship looks compared to yours with your ex. You are a unique, special woman with so many fantastic qualities and that’s what really matters. Celebrate the fact that you’re smart, funny, have goals, are caring, love your friends and family fiercely, etc. Those are all incredible.

Embrace your self-worth.

The best way to stop comparing yourself to your ex’s new girlfriend is to prop up your own self-worth. Recognize all those unique, special qualities you have and build your self-confidence, either by practicing self-care and positive mantras or even by seeking professional help if necessary. You’re worth it.

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