How To Tell If A Guy Likes You Over Text

It can be difficult to decipher how someone feels over text. But given that texting is one of the main ways we communicate now, it pays to learn how read the subtext of all the texts you get. There are a few key ways to tell how a guy feels about you over text, and most of them are pretty straightforward. Keep reading if you’re unsure how to tell if a guy likes you over texts.

  1. He texts you first. A guy or girl texting you first may seem like only a small deal. But it’s one of the clearest signs that they like you. When you’re always initiating the texting conversation, chances are the other person isn’t keen. They could be playing hard to get, but in most cases, they’re just not into you. So when a guy texts you first, and they’re mostly texting you first, it shows that they want to talk to you. And combined with the other signs, it could indicate that they like you.
  2. He always replies. When a guy likes you, he won’t leave you on read. It’s as simple as that. Even when a guy is playing hard to get, sooner or later he’ll reply. Think about those times when someone you like has texted you. How hard would it have been to leave them on read? Reliability in replies could show that he likes and respects you.
  3. He replies straight away. It’s an ever a more obvious sign that a guy likes you if he replies straight away. Leaving someone waiting for a long time usually happens when you don’t have any romantic feelings for that person. On the other hand, if he’s replying almost instantly, there’s a chance he was waiting by his phone for you to message him.
  4. When he doesn’t reply quickly, he apologizes. Even when you like someone, it’s not always possible to reply straight away. In those cases, when a guy likes you, he’ll apologize. Bustle explains that he’ll explain why he wasn’t able to reply sooner as this reduces the chance of you losing interest in him. He also won’t want you to think that he’s not interested.
  5. He texts in the morning and at night. Morning and night texts show that you’re on the guy’s mind at the start and end of his day. We usually think about the things that are most important to us before and after sleep. So this is another promising sign that he likes you. This is especially true if he texts you just to say goodnight or good morning.
  6. He keeps the conversation going. When a guy likes you, he’ll want to keep texting you. So he’ll try to keep the conversation going. He might do that by asking questions. Or by mentioning things that he knows will engage you and get a good response. If he’s writing long messages to you—that he’s clearly put thought into—it’s likely that he does like you.
  7. He gives you a nickname. Style Craze reveals that another sign of a guy liking you that is obvious over text is the use of nicknames. When he gives you a nickname and uses it as he texts you, it shows that he’s trying to get closer to you. He’s trying to make things more friendly. In most cases, it suggests that he does like you as more than a friend and is trying to work his way up to a more intimate bond with you.
  8. He texts you for no reason. It’s one thing to text someone when you have something important to say. But when he’s texting you for no reason, it’s possible that you’re the reason. He wants an excuse to talk to you because he likes you.
  9. He talks about doing more than just texting. Typically, a guy who likes you will want to take your communication together past the level of texting. He may want to move on to phone calls or even meeting in person. So if he’s always bringing up catching up in person, or chatting on the phone instead, it could be a sign that he likes you and is ready to move on past texting.
  10. He uses the right emojis. In our modern world, emojis say a lot. Bustle points out that you can guess whether or not a guy likes you based on what emojis he uses. For example, if he’s using the heart or the heart eyes, there’s a good chance that he likes you more than if he were using the low-key smile.
  11. He texts you when he’s drunk. You know what they say about drunk minds. When a guy likes you, you’ll probably be on his mind when he’s had a few drinks. Naturally, you’ll be the first person he drunk-texts. If you always get messages from him when he’s had a few, it could be another sign that he has real feelings for you.
Vanessa Locampo is an Aussie writer who’s equally obsessed with YA fiction and pasta. Her time is divided between writing all the things, reading all the things, listening to Queen, and bopping her cat on the nose. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing and has written for sites including and Discovering Montana, and currently works as an editor at Glam. You can keep up with her on Instagram @vanessaellewrites.