How To Tell If Your Relationship Is Going Nowhere

Not every relationship you have is going to result in long-term bliss. Most of the relationships you get into are going to fizzle out and come to an end, because that’s just how life goes. These unions are doomed from the beginning, but sometimes you don’t realize it until you start to notice little warning signs popping up all over the place that say, “Abandon ship!” Here are some signs that you’re in one of those dead end relationships as we speak:

1. You don’t have fun together anymore. You hardly remember having fun with your boyfriend. Being around him has become a huge pain in the ass and the carefree giggles that once filled the room are now nonexistent. “Fun” is something you have to put tremendous effort into, rather than something that happens naturally. It just isn’t worth it anymore.
2. You’re not excited to see him. The butterflies you used to get in your stomach when he walked into the room are dead and they have been replaced by dull indifference. You don’t look forward to seeing him at the end of the day or meeting up with him for weekend dates. He has become a boring routine and nothing about your relationship with him excites you anymore. Poor butterflies.
3. You’d rather spend your time alone. You put little or no effort into making plans with your boyfriend. You’re starting to realize that staying home by yourself is far more satisfying than doing anything with him. You don’t have the energy to deal with all the BS that comes with interacting with your own boyfriend. That ain’t right.
4. Everything he does irritates you. Even mundane things like the way he breathes or walks annoy the absolute crap out of you. The smallest things piss you off and keep building up deep within you until you’re ready to explode. When he finally does something that’s actually worthy of your anger, you lose your mind and blow up at him. Being a human volcano is no way to live.
5. All of your long-term goals are incompatible. The life you want does not match up with the life he wants. Relationships require compromise, but they shouldn’t have to endure endless sacrifices that crap all over your happiness like angry pigeons. If you want completely different things out of life, you’re too different to be with each other romantically and things aren’t going to work out.
6. You cringe when you see a text from him. There are no more cute, funny messages being exchanged between the two of you in person or through technology anymore. In fact, there isn’t much to talk about at all. How do you expect things to work out in the long run when you involuntarily release a depressed sigh every time you see his name pop up on your phone?
7. You think about breaking up constantly. Your thoughts always seem to wander to dating other people or what life would be like without your boyfriend in it. These thoughts don’t make you feel sad–thinking about a future without your boyfriend feels right. You can’t picture experiencing the rest of your life with him because you simply don’t want to live like that.
8. Thinking about sex and intimacy makes you nauseous. You don’t look forward to be physically close to him at all. You actively avoid it and don’t bother initiating. Being in a situation like that should never be your “normal.” Being with someone you can’t even stand touching isn’t exactly healthy.
9. You’re not happy. Your dissatisfaction with your relationship has leaked into other areas of your life and is making you a miserable douchebag. You feel trapped and you have more underlying rage than an emo kid from the early 2000’s. Your relationship is making you, a grown ass woman, feel like an emo kid. It’s time to wake up, see the dead end for what it is, and move on.