How To Tell If You’re About to Get Dumped

No one likes getting the dreaded “we need to talk” text, but it happens to the best of us. The worst is when you feel like everything has been going great, and you’re completely blindsided. While obsessing over every little thing he says and does and wondering if he’s thinking about dumping you will drive you both nuts, there are some tell-tale signs that he may be considering cutting you loose. Seeing it coming might not change anything, but at least you’ll be able to mentally prepare yourself.

  1. He doesn’t make as much time for you. When you first started dating, he would make sure you spent a couple nights together no matter what. Now, his priorities seem to have shifted towards anything that doesn’t involve spending time with you.
  2. He doesn’t text you good morning anymore. He’s pretty much abandoned any cute little texting habits that were meant to let you know he was thinking about you. Now you’re lucky if you can wrestle more than one word answers out of him all day.
  3. He picks fights about little things. All it takes is you forgetting once that he doesn’t like pickles on his Big Mac for him to completely lose his mind and storm out, saying it’s fine, he’ll just eat cereal for dinner.
  4. He’s stopping inviting you to things. He tells you the long weekend camping trip is “just the guys”, but you know for a fact, a couple of the other guys are bringing their girlfriends along.
  5. He avoids talking about the future. You want him to commit to going to your cousin’s wedding in Mexico with you three months from now, but he won’t say yes or no, he just keeps saying there’s tons of time to decide. And any hints you drop about possibly moving in together are completely ignored.
  6. He “works late” a lot more. We all go through busy stretches with our jobs, but you’re getting the distinct feeling he doesn’t have to stay late, he just wants to. Either that, or he’s just saying he’s at the office, but he’s really at home enjoying not having you around.
  7. His friends seem to be avoiding you too. You used to text a few of his friends casual inside jokes every once in awhile, and they’d respond pretty quickly, teasing you right back. Now if you get a response at all, it’s hours later, and decidedly dismissive. And you’re pretty sure you spotted his brother turn and head in the other direction when you saw him on the street the other day.
  8. He says he “needs space”. This is nothing more than a precursor to a more permanent break up. He clearly wants to see how he feels about seeing you less so he can try to ease himself out of the relationship and be sure he’s making the right decision.
  9. He flirts with another girl in front of you. He obviously doesn’t give a crap about your feelings anymore, and he’s just pushing you until you break up with him and do his dirty work.
  10. He seems irritated by your presence. He doesn’t hug you when you show up at his office when he’s working on a Saturday to surprise him with a coffee. He sleeps as far away from you as he can get without falling off the bed. And he doesn’t bother pretending he wants you around anymore. To him it’s already over, and he’s just looking for the right time to break the news. Or secretly hoping you’ll beat him to it and he’ll come out looking like the good guy.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to, contributes regularly to, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.