How To Tell If You’re Dating A Sociopath

How To Tell If You’re Dating A Sociopath ©iStock/demaerre

OK, so he hasn’t killed anyone (that you know of) yet, but there’s definitely something a little “off” about him. If he’s constantly inappropriate in front of your parents and all of your friends hate being around him, he may be a sociopath. Here are 19 signs you might be dating the next Ted Bundy – or at least someone you need to get away from ASAP.

  1. He’s overly charming. At least at first. He made a great first impression, which is how he was able to draw you in, but has a hard time keeping up the façade for long periods of time.
  2. He’s a narcissist. He’s obsessed with the mirror, talks about himself all the time, and has no empathy for anyone. In other words, it’s all about him, all the time. You’re just there to keep up his appearances.
  3. He’s superficial. Because he’s such a narcissist, he likes flashy things that will draw more attention to him, like fancy cars and clothes.
  4. He is super clingy. He wants to be with you 24/7 and he wants you all to himself, and it all seemed to happen overnight. At first it seemed romantic that he couldn’t get enough of you, until you realized he’s isolating you from everyone else you care about.
  5. He’s a master manipulator. He’s done something terribly wrong but somehow you end up apologizing to him, because he just has that way of turning things around to always make himself the victim. You may also find yourself cooking him a steak even though you don’t eat meat, because he’s great at convincing people to do things for him.
  6. He’s intense. About everything. He has no middle emotions; he is either overly excited or violently angry. And let’s not forget about his creepy stare.
  7. He’s spontaneous. And not in a romantic way, in a running from the cops kind of way.
  8. He lies. Like all the time. Each of his stories is crazier than the last, and he’s always the main character. He does it with such ease and frequency he even has himself believing his BS.
  9. He’s very intelligent. And being a-know-it-all makes it easier for you to believe his lies and be a target for his manipulations.
  10. He doesn’t feel guilt or remorse. Instead of apologizing for his bad behaviors he just gives you a million excuses, or convinces you that he did nothing wrong and that you are the nuts one for confronting him in the first place.
  11. He intentionally makes other people uncomfortable. He gets off on it. Offending and embarrassing people at parties is how he entertains himself. He has a total disregard for social norms, and doesn’t care that it upsets you.
  12. He’s jealous. Of anyone he has to share your time with and of anyone who has more money/success than him.
  13. He has an addictive personality. Whether it is abusing drugs and alcohol or being overly promiscuous, your sociopath boyfriend’s number one priority is pleasing himself.
  14. He’s delusional. Besides believing all of his own lies, he lives in a fantasy world where he is a lot more important than he really is.
  15. He has no friends. Either you have never met even one of his friends or they are dropping like flies.
  16. He is a leech. Which is one of the many reasons why he is friendless, he sucked all the ones he used to have, dry.
  17. He is eerily calm in bad situations. But that is the only time he is ever calm. It almost makes you believe he created these bad situations so that he could come in and play hero. Almost.
  18. He’s incapable of love. He probably tells you he loves you all the time (because sociopaths tell you what you want to hear) but chances are he doesn’t mean it. The only person he loves is himself.
Rachael is an award winning stand-up comedienne, freelance writer, and BravoTV superfan. Her Real Housewives tagline is “The only thing bigger than my boobs are my personalities.” In her spare time, she keeps busy catering to the needs of a very spoiled Siberian Husky, (Paris Hilton), cleaning the skeletons out of her closet (to make room for more shoes), and swiping left to everyone on Tinder. Follow her on twitter @therealplandd.