How To Tell When A Guy Wants To Kiss You

Knowing when a guy’s thinking about kissing you isn’t rocket science, but sometimes it can be hard to tell if he’s just interested in what you have to say or wants to take things up a notch. Don’t worry — there are really strong signs that he’s hoping to end the date with a makeout session. Keep an eye out for these signs that he wants to kiss you.

  1. He plays romantic music. If you’re having a date at your home or his and he plays romantic music, he’s trying to set an atmosphere that’s just ripe for kissing instead of talking. Maybe you shouldn’t read into every little lyric in every song that plays, but you can generally catch a vibe based on what’s on the evening’s playlist.
  2. He moves closer and closer. When he sits next to you, does he keep inching closer to you throughout the date? He needs to get much closer to kiss you, after all, and this is his way of starting the process.
  3. He looks at you and bites his bottom lip. Another sign that he’s keen to kiss you is if he bites his bottom lip while staring at you. Inside his head, he’s probably making growling noises. If he doesn’t bite his bottom lip but draws attention to his lips in some other way, such as by touching his lips, then that’s also a sign he’s got kissing on the brain.
  4. He studies your mouth. When you’re talking, do you feel his eyes on your lips the whole time? He’s staring at your lips because he can’t tear his eyes away, not because you have spinach in your teeth! He’s getting swamped by all the hot chemistry between you and wants you to show him that you’re a great kisser.
  5. He doesn’t pull away quickly after a hug. When he hugs you at the beginning or end of your date and he doesn’t pull away quickly, that’s a sign he wants to kiss you, especially if he follows up the hug by staring at your lips. He’s just trying to find the right moment to move in for one.
  6. He compliments your lips. He might tell you in person or via text, but either way, complimenting your lips is him basically telling you he’s noticed how beautiful your lips are and wants to kiss you. He might also try to get this point across by using lip emojis in your flirty text chats. Hint, hint.
  7. He touches you close to your lips. Remember what I said earlier about how he’ll move his body closer to you before he kisses you? It’s his way of testing the waters so he can see if you’re just as keen to kiss him as he is to kiss you. Another way in which he’ll do this that shows you he wants to kiss you is if he touches you somewhere close to your face. He might play with your hair, for instance, or your shoulder.
  8. He stares into your soul. Kissing is super intimate, so he might stare right into your eyes so it feels like he can see your soul. Gulp! Every hot kiss becomes even hotter when there’s good eye-contact involved.
  9. He starts to whisper. This is a clever way for him to get closer to your face, but it also sets a sexier mood. If you’re out in public, he might whisper to try to create a more private place for you both. If you’re alone, then things are getting sexier by the second.
  10. The conversation is awkward. It’s the end of the date and your conversation is coming to an end as he walks you to your car. There are little breaks in the conversation, and it might even feel awkward, but it’s the good kind of awkward. He might be hoping to stop talking and move in for a kiss. But he might really be shy about it. Hey, it might help to move a bit closer to him and look him deeply in the eyes to communicate that it’s the perfect time to have a goodnight kiss.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.