How To Tell Your Crush You Like Them: Low-Risk Ways To Confess

When you develop romantic feelings for someone, it can be agonizing to figure out how to let them know without embarrassing yourself. The truth is that there are no guarantees when it comes to love. If you confess your feelings, it’s possible that you’ll be rejected. If you keep it to yourself forever, you could miss out on an incredible love story. What’s a girl to do? Spit it out, of course! Here’s how to tell your crush you like them without risking too much embarrassment.

  1. Subtly shift your body language. When you’re hanging out, one of the best ways to tell your crush you like them without actually saying the words is by shifting your body language. When you’re chatting, turn your body to face theirs so that you’re directly in front of one another. When that’s not possible, move in closer and lean in towards them to show that you’re interested in what they’re saying. If they make a funny joke or say something interesting that you really want to hear, you may even consider placing your palm on their shoulder or back as you lean in. Obviously, you shouldn’t be creepy about it, but use your best judgment.
  2. Offer some genuine compliments. If your relationship is pretty casual and doesn’t genuinely include compliments, this could be a helpful way to tell your crush you like them (or at least send the message). What are the qualities they have that you really like? What draws you to them? It might be a little weird if you’re a fan of their sexy abs or whatever, but I’m sure you’re a little more thoughtful than that. Tell them how smart they are, or what a great sense of humor they have. Offer up something that shows them how much you’ve been paying attention to them as well. They’ll love that!
  3. Drop some hints. Sometimes you don’t have to be super direct to get your message across. Maybe you don’t want to tell your crush you like them, you’d rather they figure it out themselves. In this case, dropping some hints can be helpful. This requires kinda sorta being willing to put yourself out there without really exposing the depths of your feelings. This way, you can see how they respond before going any further.
  4. Make a joke of it. When all else fails, joke. Maybe you say something like, “We might as well get married – we’re perfect for each other!” when you find out you have yet another thing in common. Laugh while you say it to indicate that you’re totally not serious… maybe. Again, this is a great way of feeling your crush out to see how they’re feeling.
  5. Send them a text. If you’re too much of a chicken to tell your crush you like them in person, send them a text instead. It might seem like this is a cop-out, but technology is king these days and everyone does everything by text so it’s really not all that strange. If all else fails, this is a viable way to let them know how you feel.
  6. Ask them to hang out and have a plan in mind. You don’t have to come out and profess your undying love for them to suss out their feelings. Instead, ask them to hang out one on one and see if they’re into it. However, don’t just vaguely ask to get together “at some point” with no actual plans in mind. Instead, come to them with a specific activity and nail down a day and time to make it happen. You mean business, right?
  7. Don’t wait too long. The worst thing you can do when it comes to telling your crush you like them is waiting too long. Keeping it to yourself will only make you agonize more, and if you hold onto your feelings for too long, you may find that it’s too late and they’re already coupled up by the time you pluck up the courage. You’re a total catch – just go for it!
Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill