How To Tell If You’re Good In Bed

Let’s face it — great sex skills are something to be proud of. They can make you more attractive, more dateable, and generally more confident. Amazingly, a lot of girls who have what it takes don’t actually realize that they’re good in bed. If you’re exhibiting any of these signs, chances are you know how to rock a guy’s world.

  1. Guys have said that you’re one of the best they’ve had. Most people might just compliment your skills on certain things as a way to make you feel nice, but a truly heartfelt compliment shouldn’t be cast aside as just manners. Generally speaking, if a guy tells you that you’re a better lay than most of the other women they’ve been with, they’re being honest.
  2. Some have asked you where you learned that one move. It happens more often than you think. That one quirky thing you do in bed actually gets people going!
  3. Even when you’re in committed relationships, your former FWB still asks if you might be interested. Most guys in a friends with benefits situation understand that it’s only going to happen until you’re in a committed relationship with someone else. Some guys have no tact or class, true, but if you notice a steady pattern of guys readily coming back and asking you to be a FWB with them again, you may have good skills.
  4. Sexually intimidating guys keep hitting you up for fun. If you have a guy who’s known for his sexcapades constantly asking you for a little fun, chances are that you’re a good lover. After all, sexually prolific people tend to have other peope they could call if they wanted sex. If they seem to go out of their way to call you, it might be because you offer amazing sex… or because they are genuinely interested in dating you. Either way, it’s a good sign.
  5. You’re confident when you’re in bed. Confidence is sexy, and always boosts your prowess. Need we say any more?
  6. Even when you’ve broken up with a guy, they still openly admit that the sex you had was amazing. When the guy you broke up with says anything about you, it’s clear that he has nothing to lose. After all, you’ve already broken up with him. If he’s saying that the sex is good, especially when he knows you’re not going to sleep with him anymore, then chances are that he’s telling the truth.
  7. When you kiss a guy, he gets turned on rather quickly. Guys typically do get worked up faster than girls, but most guys won’t act like a jackrabbit on a hot date. If guys behave this way on the regular, you’re likely working them the right way.
  8. Word is that you have a reputation for being a great lay. As embarrassing as it can be for some of us, the truth is that a person’s sexual reputation often precedes them. If you’ve heard rumors about guys talking about what an animal you are in bed, it’s safe to say that you’re most likely a very talented lover.
  9. You don’t skimp on foreplay. Foreplay is one of those things that’s an absolute must with some people. While others are perfectly content just having sex, a pretty decent portion of us aren’t always happy with a simple “Wham, bam, thank you ma’am.” In order to make sure everyone’s socks get rocked, foreplay has to be involved. A person who can build up that sexual tension almost always will get better ratings than a person who just randomly jumps in.
  10. You aren’t shy about letting your freak flag fly. Kinky sex isn’t always good sex, but it’ll definitely keep the average couple from getting bored with each other. An open-minded attitude about this taboo topic will get you far with many lovers, and also might open you up to new ways to enjoy your partner.
  11. You’re communicative to your partner about your needs, but also understand the word “no.” With just about anything sexual, communication is key. Not being able to understand when you’re making your partner uncomfortable is an automatically ruined experience for them. On the other hand, if you’re good about talking to your partner, sex can go from normal to mind-blowing faster than you thought humanly possible.
  12. You feel satisfied, too. Let’s just face it — it’s good to be focused on your partner, but sex just isn’t great if you aren’t having any fun, too. Enjoy yourself!
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

She regularly writes on her popular Medium page and posts on TikTok and Instagram @ossianamakescontent.