How To Win His Heart And Make Him Fall Head Over Heels For You

Is there anything more elusive in the modern world than the inner mind of a guy you like? If it’s not the mixed messages then it’s the emotional unavailability and it’s difficult to split the difference. But fear not, armed with many years of experience and decoding the brains of guys growing up and the collaboration of many friends and family, here’s what I’ve learned so far about how to make a guy fall head over heels. It’s easier to win his heart than you might think!

  1. Use your body language. This is a classic piece of advice straight out of the Reese Witherspoon Legally Blonde. Maybe the “bend and snap” works for you, but this is where you can get creative and figure out what other forms of physical touch works for you. It’s a signal to the other person of your intent, and it’s a great way of tapping into your confident inner self. Plus, you can gauge their own feelings by the way that they respond to your advances.
  2. Text first. It’s 2021, guys. There’s nothing sexier than someone showing interest in you. Use that to your advantage and you will soon have him falling at your feet. Don’t be afraid to send that ‘u up?’ text to get his attention. This will show him that you mean business and that you’re ready to step things up in the relationship. Sometimes we just need a little security in order to properly fall for someone. This will be just the push that your crush needs. It’s so easy to just put that perfect pop song on and dance around your bedroom while you send that risky first text. You’ve got it!
  3. Introduce him to your friends. This sounds obvious but stay with me. If your crush has started falling for you but you really want to seal the deal and win his heart, rest assured that he will want to introduce you to all the other important people in his life. This includes his brawny football friends and his laddish uni mates, but it will also mean that you get to meet his sister and parents in this package. You will meet so many interesting people and you’ll get to show him how well you fit in with his world, as well as what you can add to it. It’s wholesome, it’s easy, and it’s a leap of faith with high risk, high reward.
  4. Suggest a city break. This is the time to step things up, so show your guy that you aren’t messing around. Demonstrate that you are an individual, independent, cultured person who can offer him a wealth of new experiences and fun opportunities. Plus, as Gossip Girl told us in the noughties, Paris is always a good idea.
  5. Be spontaneous. More than this, even if it doesn’t come to you naturally, why not be more spontaneous. Just as we’re emerging on the other side of COVID with our vaccines and a sense of urgency to boot, why not kill two birds with one stone and let the winds take you where they might in this relationship. Unlearn your usual tactics in dating. We’re all different. There’s no point pretending that things that used to work five years ago will get you on the pull now. What is important is the connection, and that only happens when you stop trying to control everything, and just let life play out. Trust the process, and relax.
  6. Cook for them. This is one of the easiest ways to win a guy’s heart. In contrast to the city break plan, here’s an option that’s cheap and easy. You get to try out new recipes and experiment with your culinary repertoire while at the same time impressing him and his, in my experience, limited palate. This is a new skill that you can take up together, and you can see each other grow and make mistakes in a safe, tasty environment. It’s a simple way of introducing intimacy and vulnerability into the relationship without too much pressure. Soon you will find him on your doorstep with freshly baked cookies!
  7. Talk about your passions. Who really has time for small talk nowadays? I think deep and meaningful conversation can come about naturally, but why not seize the day and cut to the chase. Get to the core issues with your crush – be bold. You will learn so much about each other, and you will find yourself reaching to each other to compromise and explore new perspectives.
  8. Give him space when he needs it. Don’t constantly pester him with your attention if he’s pulling away. Respect what he’s telling you and create a safe, communicative space with your partner. The sign of a strong relationship is being able to spend time apart and letting distance make the heart grow fonder. Trust your relationship enough to do that.

There you have it, a few ways of generating and sustaining the passion in your relationship. You will have him wrapped around your finger in no time!

Hannah has a Masters degree in Romantic and Victorian literature in Scotland and spends her spare time writing anything from essays to short fiction about the life and times of the frogs in her local pond! She loves musical theatre, football, anything with potatoes, and remains a firm believer that most of the problems in this world can be solved by dancing around the kitchen to ABBA. You can find her on Instagram at @_hannahvic.
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