How Using Toys With My Partner Has Made Sex So Much Better

How Using Toys With My Partner Has Made Sex So Much Better ©iStock/KatarzynaBialasiewicz

When it comes to what gets me off in the bedroom, nothing turns me on more than using toys with my partner. No, it doesn’t mean that we can’t make each other come without outside help, it just means we like to spice things up a bit. Here’s why sex toys are such an important part of my intimate life:

  1. It feels dirty… but in a clean way. Using toys to stimulate each other makes me feel like I’m being dirty and bad in the best way for reasons I can’t really describe. Not only do I love when my partner uses them on me, but using them on him really heightens the feeling. Because it’s still a bit illicit to add toys into the mix, it’s just a good way to play with feeling naughty, if that makes sense.
  2. We learn new things about each other sexually. By adding toys into our sexual encounters more often, we’ve both been able to find out new things about each other in terms of what the other likes and is willing to do in the bedroom. Plus, it’s basically the most pleasurable learning experience I’ve ever had, so it’s doubly amazing.
  3. It’s fun to experiment together. The more, the merrier in definitely the case in this scenario. Using a vibrator alone is certainly orgasm-inducing, but using them with my partner is that much more enjoyable. It makes each encounter afterwards that more of a sexual adventure for the both of us.
  4. He can join in on the vibrating fun. You would be surprised how much men can love vibrating toys as much as women. By experimenting with toys, I’ve discovered that my partner in fact loves the sensation as much as I do. It’s been amazing enjoying these toys together and learning what really sends each other over the edge.
  5. We get to explore new depths with each other. Literally! It’s definitely made our relationship both more orgasmic and stronger outside the bedroom too. The key to a great sexual relationship is being able to explore and experiment without judgement, and using toys is the ultimate way to explore those new depths with one another.
  6. We become closer and more intimate. By trying new things and being extremely vulnerable with each other, we become closer and more intimate in the process. It’s beneficial for both our physical and emotional connection to each other. I think by being more open to experimentation in the bedroom, our relationship has definitely strengthened and we can trust each other in our day-to-day lives more.
  7. I can be vulnerable in a safe environment. Trying new things sexually can make me feel quite vulnerable at times, but when I’m doing those things with my partner, I feel really safe and ready for anything. At first I felt a little weird, but once we got into it, things skyrocketed and now it feels quite normal.
  8. It keeps the relationship hot. Instead of just doing the usual thing every time we have sex or even just fool around, we aim to try new things to keep the relationship exciting and interesting. Adding toys has certainly kept the relationship more hot and we eve get excited when we know it’s toy time! You’re never really too old to play with toys.