How The Worst Relationships Can Bring Out The Best In You

No sane person wants to be in a bad relationship — they’re in it because they fell in love with the wrong person and can’t accept that it’s not what they want it to be. Those types of second-rate relationships are life ruiners, but there are some positives that come from such a crappy situation.

  1. They teach you how you love. Being in love with someone who doesn’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated will teach you how you love back. Learning that about yourself can help when it comes to finding a relationship that’s going to last.
  2. You realize what you truly need from a partner. If your relationship didn’t bring you the intimacy you need or the fun and adventure you crave, then reflecting back on it will help you hone in on those must-have qualities you’ll be looking for with the next guy.
  3. You learn how to let go. Being able to let go of something that’s no longer serving you is a hard feat to accomplish, but being in a bad relationship can teach you how to do so gracefully as soon as you realize it’s not what you need.
  4. You become aware of how strong you are. After having to put up with someone’s BS excuse for love and making it out unscathed, you learn about personal strength you may have otherwise overlooked.
  5. You come to terms with your own relationship mistakes. A bad relationship isn’t one-sided. Being in one can make you realize those flaws you may have that could use some work so that you don’t carry them over into a relationship with the right person.
  6. You can avoid a repeat. Any situation, good or bad, gives you a lesson. A crappy relationship can teach you what you will or won’t put up with in future partnerships so you don’t go through it again.
  7. You realize you don’t ever have to compromise. Getting the short end of the relationship stick teaches you that if you were with the right person, you wouldn’t have to compromise on reasonable expectations because someone who truly loves you will rise to meet them.
  8. You appreciate your friends and family more. When you need someone to vent to, your friends and family were always there for you. When you do finally take their advice and get out of the relationship, you’ll be grateful that they had your back through the entire ordeal.
  9. You’re able to open your heart to the right someone. You’ll know the real thing when it comes along, and loving someone who wasn’t good for you will help you give your all to the person that is.
  10. You finally understand that you’re worth it. You’ll spend some time wondering if you’re getting treated so poorly because you aren’t worth better, but once you free yourself from the relationship, you’ll realize that’s BS. An unpleasant relationship experience shows you just how worthy you are, and the next time you fall for someone, you’ll love yourself first.
  11. You finally know what you deserve. Being in a relationship with someone that constantly takes when you constantly give isn’t going to help you grow. What it does do is help you realize that you deserve more, and the next time a relationship sparks, you’ll know from the get-go that you’re not going to accept anything less.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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