Men aren’t out to get you. They don’t want to break your heart any more than you want to get your heart broken. Most of the time, the painful things they do aren’t intentional, they’re accidental. Here are a few hurtful things men do without even realizing it:
- Forget to compliment your outfit. You’re not cocky. You don’t think you look so hot that you deserve a compliment. However, when it takes you over an hour to find an outfit, put up your hair, and do your makeup in the hopes of impressing him, commenting on it is the least he can do. When he acts like he doesn’t notice, it’ll make you wonder if you did all that work for nothing.
- Stop replying to your texts. Sometimes, texting will slip his mind. Of course, if you like him, then you’ll assume that his lack of a response means that he doesn’t like you back. It’s even worse when the text wasn’t just to say hello, but was asking him to hang out.
- Won’t take things a step further. He might not have a clue that you were flirting with him all night. However, you’ll assume that your intentions are obvious, which is why you’ll get upset when he doesn’t try to initiate anything. It’ll make you think that he doesn’t feel the same way.
- Introduce you as a friend. Until you two become an official couple, introductions will be difficult. You know it would be awkward for him to introduce you as the girl he’s been sleeping with for months, but that doesn’t change the fact that being reduced to his “friend” is hurtful.
- Talk about their crush. Men aren’t the only ones who get friendzoned. When you have a crush on a guy friend, it’s hell to hear him talk about his own crushes. Of course, he has no idea that he’s hurting you. He thinks he’s just talking to a good friend about his love life.
- Compliment other women. Your boyfriend’s obsession with Kate Upton doesn’t mean he wants you to look just like her. Of course, it’s hard not to wonder if he wishes your breasts were as big as hers. He probably isn’t comparing you to her, but as soon as he talks about her pretty she is, you’ll start making those comparisons yourself.
- Stare at other women. Staring at other women is just as bad as complimenting other women. It’ll make you wonder if you’re good enough for him. It’s natural for your man to look around, but that doesn’t change the fact that it’ll make you feel less than attractive.
- Insult your body. Some men will end up insulting you when they’re actually trying to compliment you. They’ll tell you that they’ve never seen a curvy girl as pretty as you, or that they usually don’t like women without meat on their bones. They’re trying to hit on you, but all they’re doing is hurting you.
- Ignore you. All men are guilty of nodding along when a story gets boring. Of course, even when you know you’re rambling on, it’s hurtful to know that your boyfriend isn’t paying any attention to you. It’ll make you wonder if he tried his best to listen to you, or if he tuned out early.
- Leave you in the dark. You want your man to tell you everything. If he forgets to tell you about his promotion, or how his ex is in town, you aren’t going to be happy. You want to hear important information from him, not through the grape vine.
