I Cheat In Pretty Much Every Relationship I’m In—Here’s Why

Cheating is horrible—it ruins relationships and leaves people emotionally messed up. I know this, so why am I unfaithful in pretty much every relationship I enter? I’m a messy human being with serious insecurities. I’m not proud of the person I am and I know there’s no excuse. However, here are the brutally honest reasons that I’m a perpetual cheater.

  1. There’s always something better just around the corner. You only get one life, right? I don’t want to waste mine by committing to someone who’s great and missing out on someone who’s even better. I know that’s not the best ideology to live by, but it’s how I feel. I want to have experiences with different people so I never have any regrets.
  2. Relationships can get boring fast. Routine gets old, especially when it comes to relationships. Don’t get me wrong, I love snuggling with the same person every night. What I don’t love is having the same conversations, the same fights, and the same date night activities. I get bored when I’m not being challenged. Unfortunately, I’ve yet to find a guy that challenges me.
  3. I’m not happy with who I am. I don’t cheat because I want a different person, I cheat because I want to become a different person. I look for guys who can make me happy. Unfortunately, that’s why most of my relationships fail after a couple of months. No guy can make me happy—that’s something I have to do myself.
  4. I lose myself in relationships. The beginning is always great. I become the person my partner wants me to be—a committed girlfriend. But that’s usually when I start to lose myself. The truth is, I’m uncomfortable being someone’s better half. It’s a lot of pressure and I always break.
  5. Options make me feel safe. I like having options. I don’t want to be in a situation where my whole world revolves around one specific thing or person. What if I’m fired? What if my person blindsides me with a breakup? I want to make sure I have a back-up so I’m taken care of if my original plan blows up in my face.
  6. I feel neglected easily. I’m an attention-seeker. I need constant recognition to feel comfortable in myself and my relationship. When I feel like I’m being ignored or neglected, I act out and search for attention elsewhere. I know it’s not fair or right but I can’t help it. I’m like a flower—if I’m not given enough water, I’ll die (or in my case, I’ll cheat).
  7. My boyfriends act like children. Most of my boyfriends were immature. I felt like their mom more than their girlfriend, which made the relationship imbalanced. I’m not blaming my ex-boyfriends because they didn’t force me to date them. It’s my fault for choosing the same type of guys all the time and expecting a different result.
  8. It’s way too easy to cheat. Cheating is pretty much an epidemic that I’ve unfortunately fallen into. It’s just so easy! With technology at its peak, there are so many ways to cheat that aren’t even physical. I’m not blaming dating apps, I’m just saying they definitely don’t help.
  9. Growing up isn’t a priority for me right now. The idea of getting married and being shackled down to one person for the rest of my life terrifies me. Don’t get me wrong, most marriages I know are successful, but they all required a lot of work to get there. What if we’re not willing to put in the work?
  10. I welcome new opportunities. I put myself in situations that welcome cheating. I go to parties when I’m in relationships and I still communicate with my exes. I don’t act like someone who’s coupled up and to be honest, I’m not sure If I even know how to.
  11. My insecurities make me reckless. I’m incredibly insecure and those insecurities are why I make reckless decisions. Instead of working through my problems, I try to bury them and distract myself with men. Making sure someone finds me attractive, other than my partner gives me a sense of self-worth.
  12. I’ve never really been in love. Why am I a perpetual cheater? Because I’ve never dated anyone I really, really loved. Most of my relationships were good, but none of them were amazing. My cheating is a clear sign I date people I don’t 100% care about. Maybe I need to change that.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.