I’d Rather Be Alone Forever Than Date Someone Who Doesn’t Make Me Feel Alive

As a forever single girl, the thought of settling is enough to make me sick. I just can’t imagine choosing to spend my life with someone that I just don’t feel anything for. Here’s why I’d rather be alone forever than date someone who doesn’t make me feel totally and completely alive:

There’s nothing lonelier than a bad relationship. I’m the kind of person who feels trapped even thinking about going on a second date with a guy that I’m not into, so I can definitely imagine how awful it would feel to be in an actual relationship with someone I just didn’t care about. There’s literally nothing lonelier than a relationship that doesn’t seem right. If I’m going to be alone, I might as well be alone. I don’t need a pretend boyfriend.

The single life isn’t always horrible. Sometimes I have my moments when I wonder why I haven’t met anyone yet or if I should be doing something differently. Then those moments pass and I’m back to loving my life no matter what my relationship status says on Facebook. Since things aren’t exactly dire in my world, why would I settle?

I would never hear the end of it from my people. My BFFs and family members know me way too well to not say something if I was settling. They would ask if I really was into this guy because they would be able to tell that I just wasn’t. That would be kind of embarrassing and awkward AF. No thanks.

There’s absolutely no point forcing things. A relationship can either evolve naturally when two people enjoy each other’s company or nothing will happen despite their best efforts. I truly believe that there’s no point forcing a romantic connection because everyone loses in the end. The spark is there from the start or it’s just not.

Every time I go on a second date “just in case,” I’m disappointed. It can be tough to know if I’m turning down second dates because I really don’t like the guy or I’ve just gotten into a single girl groove. In the past, I’ve gone on second dates with guys I wasn’t sure about because I wanted to see what would happen. And every time, I’d be disappointed and realize there was zero connection. There would be no reason to date someone I didn’t even like.

I’m single for a reason. And it’s a pretty good one. I have yet to meet the right guy who makes me feel super alive and like he is the right person for me. If I haven’t dated just anyone so far then why would I start doing that now? It’s like a foreign language to me.

My gut would be screaming at me. I live and date by my gut instincts and so far, they haven’t let me down. They’ve stopped me from making some horrible decisions and have saved me tons of heartache. If I dated a guy that made me feel absolutely nothing, my gut would always be telling me that I was doing the wrong thing. In fact, it would never shut up, and I would eventually have to listen, so I might as well listen from the very beginning.

I would be the biggest hypocrite ever. I’ve always been the one to point out when someone else is dating someone they don’t even like. I’ve had friends who’ve insulted their boyfriends every time we’ve hung out or who’ve been waiting for something more that never materialized. I’d be a hypocrite if I did the exact same thing.

I’ve gotten used to dating. The truth is that I’m finally at a place in my life where the thought of going on another first date doesn’t make me want to break out in hives. It’s just part of the process of meeting the right guy. Why would I date any guy when I’m in the exact position that I should be in to find love?

I’m still waiting for my person. At the end of the day, I still want to meet my person. The one who makes all the crappy dates and weird experiences worth it. The one who fits into my world like clockwork. I would hate myself for giving up that dream just because I had the chance to be in a relationship. I’ll take my chances and hope that I meet him soon.

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