I’d Rather Die Alone Than Actually Follow Dating Rules

I’d Rather Die Alone Than Actually Follow Dating Rules ©iStock/Freemixer

Dating rules are complete and utter BS. They’re not going to help you find a boyfriend. If anything, they just make dating more complicated than it needs to be. That’s why I’d rather be single than actually follow dating rules.

  1. I wouldn’t be myself if I followed them. I’m not a patient person. I can’t wait three days for you to text me or three dates to have sex. If I did that, I’d feel like I was trying to trick you into thinking I’m someone I’m not, and that’s not the way I want to start a relationship.
  2. They don’t work, anyway. There are millions of women out there who follow dating rules, and guess what? They’re still single and searching for love. Maybe the key to finding a relationship is to toss all of those rules out the window and start doing your own thing.
  3. If he doesn’t like it, he’s not for me. Breaking the rules right off of the bat is the easiest way to tell if a man is actually worth my time. If he runs away, just because I slept with him on the first date, then I saved myself some trouble. I’d rather know that he’s a douchebag right away than find out after three months of dating.
  4. I’d rather follow my heart than follow the rules. I trust my gut more than I trust decade-old rules that try to tell me how to live my life. I’m going to do what I feel is right, not what my grandparents thought was right.
  5. Most of the rules are about control. I don’t want to hold power over my boyfriend by playing mind games and keeping him on his toes. I want us to be equals. If that means sacrificing my dignity, so be it.
  6. Every couple is different. What worked for your friends might not work for you. That’s why you might as well move at a pace that you’re comfortable with. Text him when you want to text him and move in with him when you want to move in with him.
  7. I don’t want to be like everyone else. I’ve never altered my personality to fit in and I’m not going to start now. I’d rather stand out from the crowd than struggle to stand amongst them.
  8. I don’t care what other people think. As long as the man I’m with is happy with our relationship, I don’t care what the rest of society thinks of us. It doesn’t matter if they say we’re moving too fast or too slow. As long as we’re happy, nothing else matters.
  9. Rules are meant to be broken. It’s not illegal to break the relationship rules you don’t like. They’re put in place by society, not by the government. The only thing holding you back from breaking them is yourself.
  10. I’d be happier alone. I’d be happier alone, doing what I want to do, than doing what society expects me to do. F*ck their expectations. I’m living for me.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.