I’d Take A Boring Relationship Over An Adventurous One Any Day

I’d Take A Boring Relationship Over An Adventurous One Any Day ©iStock/ ZoneCreative

Adventure isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Sure, it’s nice to take a vacation every once in a while, but the days of sunbathing and sightseeing have to end eventually. That’s why I’d take a boring relationship over an adventurous one any day, and you should, too.

  1. I need someone I can sit in silence with. It’s easy to find someone I can have fun with while hiking up mountains and taking pictures in front of the Eiffel Tower. It’s a lot harder to find someone I’m comfortable sitting next to on the couch without saying a word.
  2. Boring days lead to the best conversations. If we’re always away on some crazy adventure, we’ll be so caught up in the excitement that you won’t take the time to sit down one-on-one to really get to know each other. But when things get boring, we’ll have all the time in the world to talk. We’ll get the chance to chat about everything and anything that matters to us, and that’s what I want.
  3. Love is shown in small ways. I don’t need someone who whisks me away on an impromptu trip to Paris every anniversary. I’m happy with flowers and a few tender kisses. Not everyone can afford to be adventurous.
  4. Boring doesn’t mean bad. Why do couples have to take trips abroad and snap selfies with exotic animals in order to have something to brag about? If we’re happy playing board games on our living room floor while eating microwavable meals, then I should be bragging, too.
  5. Adventure isn’t realistic. Sure, we can travel the world while we’re in the honeymoon phase, but all of that excitement will eventually sizzle out. We can still go on vacation every few months, but the majority of the relationship won’t be super exciting. It’s just not the way life works.
  6. Boring relationships are better than unhealthy ones. Some people consider drama exciting, but I’d rather be in a stable relationship where I don’t have to question his feelings for me than fight with my boyfriend over every little thing.
  7. I’ll know he likes me for me. If I always take him out on exciting adventures, I’ll eventually start to wonder if he likes me for me or for my money. But if we’re happy sitting around doing nothing together, I won’t have to ask yourself if he’s using me —I’ll know that he’s 100% into me.
  8. Adventurous men aren’t the most reliable. An adventurous man might sound appealing at first, but they can be unreliable. One week he’ll take me on a two-day road trip, and the next week he won’t have any time to spend with me. But if we have a set routine, we’ll go out on dates every single week, without exception.
  9. I won’t mind being bored. If I’m with the right person, then I won’t care if we’re sitting on separate ends of the couch, reading completely different books. I’ll just be happy that we’re in the same room as each other. We won’t have to do anything exciting in order to have a good day.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.