If Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Do These Things, You’re Settling

Dating is so exhausting that sometimes it seems easier to settle for a guy that’s good enough rather than keep fighting to find your own unicorn. Of course, that’s a terrible idea that will only leave you disappointed in the end. Don’t sell yourself short! Never give up until you find a guy like this:

  1. He’s your partner in crime. When you get into a relationship, it should feel like it’s the two of you against the world. You’re a team and no one can take that away from you. You back one another up no matter what. You plan things together. You go out together. You can think of nothing better than spending your free time getting into mischief with this man. Isn’t that what love is all about?
  2. He wants to see you succeed. Some guys will try to keep you down because your success threatens their manhood. Screw those men! They’re not worth your time. Instead, you need someone who wants to see you succeed; someone who will support your dreams and aspirations. A guy who truly loves and cares about you will want you to reach your full potential, and that’s the kind of guy you want.
  3. He’s loyal and trustworthy. You don’t want to spend your nights worrying that he’s out there with some other woman while you’re at home waiting for him. If you can’t trust him as far as you could throw him, there’s something terribly wrong. You shouldn’t have to try to change him; he should already be willing to give you his undying respect and loyalty. Don’t beg for it.
  4. He knows what he’s doing in bed. While sex definitely isn’t everything, an interesting and fulfilling sex life will work wonders for any relationship. You shouldn’t have to teach a guy what to do in bed because he should already know. If he doesn’t, the relationship is doomed from the very beginning. You need a guy who can take charge and make you feel fantastic when you get down to it. If he can’t do that right now, he probably never will.
  5. He has zero problem telling you how he feels. A load of man-children out there have a real problem when it comes to talking about their feelings. They naively believe that showing their human side will make them appear weak and fragile. Nothing could be further from the truth. The right man is strong enough to communicate his feelings to you regardless of how they may be perceived. When you find that guy, hold onto him for dear life.
  6. He’s your cheerleader and number one fan. Never, ever make the mistake of staying with a guy who puts you down. The right man will never do this. When you find a guy who cares, he’ll go out of his way to be your cheerleader. He’ll brag about you to his friends and tell everyone how truly wonderful you are — because you really are. If you can’t imagine your current guy doing this, perhaps you should cut him loose.
  7. He can deal with conflict. Conflict is a natural part of any relationship. I don’t think there’s a single couple out there who don’t fight or argue on the regular. It’s about how you deal with that conflict that really matters. If the two of you can work together to resolve your arguments in a healthy way, you may just be onto a winner.
  8. He makes time for you even when he’s busy. Okay, let’s cut the BS. We’re all busy, but we’re not too busy for the people that matter. If this guy is telling you that he doesn’t have a spare second to text you back or meet up with you, it’s because he doesn’t think you’re worth his time. Sorry to be the one to break it to you, but if you’re holding onto a guy who never gives you the time of day, you’re the fool in the relationship.
  9. He’s secure in more ways than one. Security doesn’t have to just be financial. Yes, you want a guy who can balance his books, but you need more than that. You want a guy who’s emotionally stable and secure in who he is. If he’s happy with himself, he’ll be in a good position to make you happy too. If he’s not, he will likely end up tearing you down whether he means to or not.
  10. He can make you laugh even in hard times. Why do you think most dating ads include those four little letters, ‘GSOH’? It’s because a sense of humor is important when it comes to a relationship. While you don’t need a clown for a boyfriend, you do need someone who doesn’t take life too seriously. Look for a guy who can make you giggle no matter how terrible things may seem on the surface because that man is a keeper.
Charlotte is a freelance writer who's addicted to binge-watching TV, drinking far too much coffee, and writing articles.
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