If He Has One Foot Out The Door, Let Him Keep Walking

When the man you love starts eyeing out the door, it’s tempting to want to block his path and lure him back to the warm bed of your relationship. Don’t do it. If he’s so hell-bent on leaving, wave goodbye and let him go.

  1. You should never have to beg. If you have to ask him to please stay with you and give things another chance, you might as well get down on your knees and beg. It feels terrible and makes you come across as desperate. Love doesn’t look like this! If he cared about you and your relationship, he’d want to do whatever he could to make it work. Wanting to throw in the towel sends the exact opposite message.
  2. He should know your worthAfter spending some time with you, he should know that you’re an amazing person who will enrich his life. If he wants to leave, he clearly doesn’t know what amazing GF material you are (or he just doesn’t care). It’s not your job to inform or educate him — and why would you even want to waste your time doing that, anyway?
  3. You’ll never be satisfied. You might think that the thrill of getting your way and making him stay will be awesome, but it’ll feel like crap. Even if he does stick around, you’ll always know it was because you had to convince him to. It’s a whole lot of work that he made you do, which isn’t exactly what being with a Dream Guy looks like, is it?
  4. If he likes you, he’d never dream of leaving. A guy who’s really into you will want to stay out of his own choice. He won’t give you mixed messages or make you feel like you need to put in elbow grease to keep him around. Hell no. He’ll be working hard to keep you interested, not the other way around. And that’s how it should be.
  5. If you have to change someone, they’re not right for you. You might like the guy so much that you think nothing of trying to “fix” or change him into the perfect guy. This might include boosting his interest in you, but the perfect guy for you will be great the way he is, and he’ll be crazy about you. You won’t have to make him into something he’s not.
  6. If he’s the right guy, he’ll make the effort. Sure, relationships can be really hard. Sometimes people get tempted to throw in the towel and move on. But if they’re really still in love with their partner, they’ll make it work. You’ve probably seen those types of couples who have so many problems and yet, mysteriously, they’re still together. There’s nothing mysterious about it — they know that being together is more important than any challenge they face. That’s the kind of guy you want.
  7. You’ll never have to sell yourself for the right guy. You might think that you have to show the guy you’re with just how amazing you are in order to keep him interested, but honestly, your qualities speak for themselves. You don’t have to rush out and buy sexy lingerie or volumizing shampoo. The right guy will not only be able to see how appealing you are, he’ll also notice great things about you that even you don’t see!
  8. The minute you have to persuade someone to stay, the relationship is doomed. If you feel you’ve got to try to charm or convince the guy to be with you, then things are already over. He’s already walked out the door — if not physically, then emotionally. Why waste your time trying to resuscitate a dead relationship? You’re better than that.
  9. Your destiny will never make you lose your dignity. This is so true! Whatever is meant to be in your life will uplift and empower you. It will cause you to walk tall, not crawl on your knees chasing after the guy who’s heading for the door. So let the loser go, because he’s too small for you.
  10. Having to persuade someone never feels good. How can it? You’re having to convince him to give your relationship and you another shot, empowering him and making you feel desperate AF. The thing to remember is that the right guy will make you feel good. He won’t put you in situations that cut you down to size.
  11. You’ll realize it’s not worth it in the end. You might get your way and make him stay, but for how long will he be happy? You can’t paint over the problems that are obviously there, so all your hard work will just result in short-term happiness for you at the cost of your self-worth and self-esteem. You should choose those over a guy because they’re so much more important.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.