If You Do These 19 Things, You Treat People Like Crap

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We all have our less than stellar moments, but some behaviors are just plain disrespectful.

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If you find yourself doing these things regularly, it might be time for a reality check. Treating people well isn’t just about being nice — it’s about basic human decency.

1. You’re always late.

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Consistently showing up late sends a clear message: your time is more valuable than everyone else’s. It’s disrespectful and shows a lack of consideration. If you’re always running behind, start planning better. Other people’s time matters too.

2. You interrupt constantly.

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If you can’t wait for someone to finish their sentence before jumping in, you’re being rude. Interrupting shows you think your thoughts are more important than theirs. Practice active listening instead. You might actually learn something.

3. You never say “thank you.”

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Gratitude isn’t just polite, it’s essential for good relationships, Psychology Today notes. If you take people’s efforts for granted, you’re treating them like they owe you something. A simple “thanks” goes a long way in showing appreciation.

4. You gossip non-stop.

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Constantly talking about people behind their backs is toxic behavior. It shows a lack of integrity and respect for privacy. If you wouldn’t say it to someone’s face, don’t say it at all.

5. You’re rude to service workers.

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How you treat people in service positions says a lot about your character. If you’re dismissive or demanding with waitstaff, retail workers, or customer service reps, you’re showing a real lack of empathy and respect.

6. You never apologize.

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If you can’t admit when you’re wrong or say sorry when you’ve hurt someone, you’re prioritizing your ego over your relationships. Real strength lies in taking responsibility for your actions and making amends.

7. You’re always on your phone.

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Constantly checking your phone when someone’s talking to you is the modern equivalent of ignoring them to their face. It shows you don’t value their presence or what they’re saying. Give people your full attention.

8. You make everything about you.

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If you can’t have a conversation without steering it back to your experiences or opinions, you’re showing a lack of interest in other people. Relationships are a two-way street. Learn to listen and be curious about what makes people tick.

9. You’re a chronic canceler.

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Constantly bailing on plans shows you don’t value other people’s time or feelings. If you make a commitment, stick to it unless there’s a real emergency. Your flakiness affects other people.

10. You give unsolicited advice.

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Not everyone wants your opinion on how to live their life. If someone hasn’t asked for your input, offering it can come across as judgmental and condescending. Learn to listen without always trying to fix things.

11. You’re always complaining.

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Constant negativity is draining for everyone around you. If you’re always focusing on what’s wrong, you’re bringing everyone else down with you. Try practicing gratitude instead of always seeing the worst in situations.

12. You don’t respect boundaries.

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If you’re always pushing past people’s stated limits or invading their personal space, you’re showing a fundamental lack of respect. Everyone has the right to set boundaries. Learn to honor them.

13. You use guilt as a weapon.

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Manipulating people by making them feel guilty is a toxic behavior. If you often use phrases like “after all I’ve done for you,” you’re not showing love or concern — you’re being manipulative.

14. You’re overly critical.

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Constantly pointing out flaws or mistakes in other people is demoralizing. If your first instinct is always to criticize rather than encourage, you’re likely making people feel small and inadequate around you.

15. You’re a one-upper.

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Always trying to top someone else’s story or achievement shows insecurity and a lack of empathy. Learn to celebrate other people’s successes without feeling the need to overshadow them.

16. You ghost people.

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Disappearing without explanation is cowardly and hurtful. If you’re no longer interested in maintaining a relationship or connection, have the courage to communicate that directly.

17. You make promises you don’t keep.

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Consistently breaking your word destroys trust, Verywell Mind warns. If you say you’ll do something, follow through. Your reliability (or lack thereof) speaks volumes about how you value other people.

18. You dismiss people’s feelings.

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Saying things like “you’re too sensitive” or “it’s not a big deal” invalidates other people’s emotions. Everyone has a right to their feelings. Practice empathy instead of dismissing experiences you don’t understand.

19. You take without giving.

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If you’re always on the receiving end of favors but never reciprocate, you’re taking advantage of people’s kindness. Relationships should have balance. Be as willing to give as you are to receive.

Harper Stanley graduated from Eugene Lang College at The New School in NYC in 2006 with a degree in Media Studies and Literature and Critical Analysis. After graduating, she worked as an editorial assistant at The Atlantic before moving to the UK to work for the London Review of Books.

When she's not waxing poetic about literature, she's writing articles about dating, relationships, and other women's lifestyle topics to help make their lives better. While shocking, she really has somehow managed to avoid joining any social media apps — a fact she's slightly smug about.