The experiences we had growing up shaped us into adults. If you recognize any of these things from your childhood, there’s a good chance you learned early how to be independent and self-sufficient. These traits will carry you far throughout your life.
1. You Figured Out Your Problems
Whether you were figuring out how to fix a broken toy or sorting out a disagreement with a friend, you weren’t rescued by adults. You learned to navigate challenges on your own from a young age, which prepared you to deal with and solve life’s curve balls without waiting or expecting someone else to step in.
2. You Spent a Lot of Time By Yourself
Whether by choice or circumstance, you spent a lot of time solo growing up. You learned to entertain yourself by reading, playing, drawing, and being left to your own devices (without a high-tech device). As a result, you enjoy your own company and feel comfortable being alone, so you’re independent, not co-dependent.
3. You Learned Responsibility Early On
Maybe you were the kid who had to take care of their younger siblings and the pets and do your share around the house. You might have even had to get your own way to and from school as your parents were working. Those early responsibilities taught you how to manage tasks and be accountable, so they are second nature to you as an adult.
4. You Made Your Own Decisions
Instead of being told what to do, you were encouraged to make your own decisions. You were asked what you wanted to wear or how you intended to spend your allowance. Mastering the art of decision-making young taught you how to think for yourself and trust your own judgment.
5. You Knew “Money Didn’t Grow on Trees”
Back in the day, most kids were told this, so you grew up understanding that money didn’t just fall from the sky. Maybe you had to work for your pocket money and save up for things you wanted. These early skills taught you to be financially aware and savvy, so you’re probably a master budgeter and have a retirement plan.
6. You Did Your Homework Without Help
No one asked you to do your homework, and you didn’t have a parent who sat down with you every night to help. You knew what had to be done and got on with it. As a result, you know how to prioritize and manage tasks without much direction or someone hovering over you.
7. You Were Encouraged to Go It Alone
Whether riding your bike around the neighborhood, going to camp, or being free to explore without supervision, you were trusted to be responsible and independent. This early independence means you can think for yourself, are open to new things, and don’t need others to validate you.
8. You Had Parents Who Worked
If your parents were busy with work, you had to be super independent early. You made your way home, had your own key, and knew how to make a snack and manage your time until they got home. Those early moments of self-reliance turned you into someone who knows how to take care of their business with little direction or guidance.
9. You Weren’t Coddled
Growing up, you weren’t wrapped in bubble wrap. You were exposed to the realities of life early on, like seeing your parents struggle with finances or having to defend yourself without your parents fighting your battles. It wasn’t always easy, but it’s given you a realistic view of the world and taught you how to adapt and be resilient during challenging times.
10. You Were Encouraged to Speak Up
You weren’t told to “be quiet” or “stay out of grown-up conversations,” you were encouraged to voice your opinions and stand up for what you believed in. This has shaped you into someone who advocates for themselves and has a strong sense of justice. You’ll always take a stand when you believe in something.
11. You Had to Earn Privileges
Nothing was just handed to you; you had to work for it. Whether it was extra TV time, a later bedtime, or a new toy, you learned early on that getting privileges required an effort on your behalf. Perhaps you did extra chores or homework—this valuable lesson is behind your strong work ethic today.
12. You Weren’t Afraid of Failure
Growing up, you were taught that trying and failing is better than not trying at all. Whether during a test, in sport, or a project, you weren’t coddled or made to feel less than when things didn’t go perfectly. This attitude helped you build resilience and a willingness to take on challenges without fear of messing up.
13. You Took Care of Others
In your family, you had a caretaker role. Perhaps you were the oldest and had to help out with a sibling, care for an elderly family member, or you were the friend everyone turned to for advice. These experiences taught you to be responsible for yourself and others and made you more empathetic.
14. You Didn’t Know Instant Gratification
You weren’t spoiled as a child. You grew up having to wait for things—whether you had to save for something, wait until you were older, or were simply told “no.” This might have been maddening as a kid, but you learned patience, self-discipline, and to be grateful for what you had.
15. You Had to Be Resourceful
In your home, you learned how to make do with what you had. You wore hand-me-downs, got creative using household items on a school project, and figured out ways to entertain yourself without expecting a new game or toy. That has translated to being resourceful and savvy today; you upcycle, love thrift stores and your craft cupboard is a treasure trove.
