If You Have To Lie To Him About Any Of These Things, You Don’t Belong With Him

If You Have To Lie To Him About Any Of These Things, You Don’t Belong With Him ©iStock/PeopleImages

You can’t lie to your boyfriend and expect your relationship to last. You need to be honest with him, even about the little things that don’t seem to matter much. After all, a strong partnership is built on communication, trust, and honesty. You don’t belong with him if you can’t be honest with him about these 10 things:

  1. Your past relationships. Don’t pretend that you’ve been in a serious relationship if you haven’t. Don’t pretend you’re a virgin if you’re not. As uncomfortable as it is to talk to your boyfriend about your exes, he deserves to know about your past. If you’re scared he’ll judge you, then you don’t belong together.
  2. Why you’re upset. If you aren’t a fan of his female friends, don’t pretend that you’re okay with him hanging out with them. If he does something to upset you, you need to let him know. Otherwise, he’s going to assume that it’s okay for him to keep acting the way he’s been acting.
  3. If you orgasmed. Never fake an orgasm again. When you do, you’re only screwing yourself over. If you belonged with him, you’d be comfortable telling him what your body responds the best to. Then you’d both enjoy sex instead of letting the act be for his pleasure only.
  4. What you want from him. Don’t continue having casual sex with him if you want him to be your boyfriend. You need to let him know what you want from the start, so that there’s no confusion or heartbreak. If you’re honest, there’s less of a chance that he’ll use you.
  5. What sports you like. If you hate hockey, don’t pretend you’re a fan so he’ll take you to a game with him. He doesn’t expect you to have all of the same hobbies as him, anyway. That’s why you need to be yourself around him. It’s the only way your relationship will last.
  6. How wealthy you are. Don’t pretend that you’re rich just to impress him. Don’t pretend that you have good credit, either. If you two end up getting married, he’s going to figure out that you’ve been lying to him. Besides, do you really want a man who’s only interested in a sugar mama?
  7. Your plans for the future. If he always talks about wanting children, you should let him know if you aren’t interested in having kids. Don’t worry about losing him. If you two really belonged together, you’d figure something out.
  8. What you look like. There’s nothing wrong with straightening your hair and swapping your glasses for contacts. Just don’t lie to him by claiming it’s your natural look. If you were comfortable with him, you wouldn’t mind letting him see the real you.
  9. What you’re willing to do for him. Don’t pretend that you love to cook when you’ve never turned on your own stove. Don’t pretend that you love butt sex just to turn him on, either. If you two belonged together, he wouldn’t care if you were a five-star chef or a freak in the sheets.
  10. If you love him. You should never lie about loving someone. Don’t push yourself to say those three little words, just because he decided to utter them. Everyone moves at their own pace, so you should either wait to return the phrase, or you can end things. Lying shouldn’t be an option.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.