If you always make matters of the heart way more complicated than they have to be, you’re definitely not the only one. It seems impossible not to care way too much about the little things and obsess over every moment you spend with the new guy in your life, but if you’re more anxious than excited, you’re missing a super important point: if you like him, it should be simple. There’s really no need to worry so much.
- You fit into each other’s lives seamlessly. Sure, sometimes you have to compare work schedules like you’re famous actors with early call times and media interviews. But for the most part, you should feel like you’ve always been a part of each other’s worlds. That’s the only way it’s going to work long-term when things get serious.
- You never question how you feel. If you really like him, you’ll never go on a second or even third date “just to see” or because you’re not sure if you’re attracted to him. You’ll be super sure from the moment you meet him (or by the end of the first date if you’re not a love at first sight kind of girl).
- You should be having the time of your life. You’ll feel silly for enjoying yourself so much, but you won’t even care because being with him is too much fun. Even staying in for an entire weekend with a half-empty fridge will seem like a perfect getaway.
- You get along. Period. You won’t fight about stupid crap or wonder why he didn’t text you back in an appropriate amount of time. You’ll just enjoy each other’s company and talk like it’s going out of style.
- You’ll feel accepted. You won’t force your personality to fit his or wonder why he doesn’t get your weird sense of humor. He’ll get literally everything about you and you’ll feel the exact same way. Where others teased you for your love of pop music and bad reality TV, he’ll think it’s totally cool.
- There are zero surprises. You don’t find out after a month that he’s actually living at home and didn’t tell you, or that he’s got zero ambition after all. You definitely don’t find out that, oops, he never meant to make you believe that you would be a real thing. It’s real, and you both know it.
- You’ll love each other’s people. Your two families will love each other and you’ll like each other’s friends. There won’t be any tension or jealousy. Your best friends won’t wonder what the hell you could possibly see in this guy because they’ll think it makes perfect sense that you’re together.
- You never want to change him. You know people can’t be changed, and that’s totally okay, because you’d never dream of changing him. He’s perfect the way he is (or at least to you, and that’s all that matters).
- You’ll always be on the same page. You have the same hopes for the future and want to be with each other. So you will be. Loving him will the simplest decision you ever made — and the absolute best one, too.
