If Your Heart Is Broken, Remember This

If Your Heart Is Broken, Remember This ©iStock/max-kegfire

Falling in love is always a gamble, and sometimes things just don’t work out. If your heart is broken, it can be hard to imagine ever feeling whole again — but you will. When you’re struggling to pick yourself up and move on from love gone wrong, remember these things:

  1. You did everything you could. You may feel guilty, but it’s not your fault. You tried as hard as you could to make things work, but sometimes love isn’t enough to make someone stay. You did your best, and that’s all you can do.
  2. Even the biggest and best hearts go through this. I know you feel like you’re the only broken heart in the world, but you’re not. All the best and most caring hearts get broken at some point. It’s like losing teeth as a child. It happens, but it hurts when it does.
  3. You’ll cry away some of the pain. You’re crying because you’re hurt, but maybe the tears will help ease the pain. It seems that every memory makes you cry right now, but with each each day, it’ll hurt a little less.
  4. You didn’t fall in love overnight, so it’ll take time to fall out of it. Time is the best medicine for a broken heart. I’d love to tell you that you’ll feel better tomorrow, but odds are, it’s still going to hurt like hell for a while longer. You’ll get there eventually.
  5. It’s only temporary. Right now, it feels like this feeling will last forever. Don’t worry. It’s only temporary. All those shattered pieces will come back together and you will love again, stronger and better than ever before.
  6. Don’t give up — you’ll find someone. Being broken might make you feel like love isn’t in the cards for you, but it is. Don’t give up. Once you’ve healed and laid the past to rest, you’ll find someone new who’ll love you like you deserve to be loved.
  7. The good times were worth it. The pain makes it seem like the entire experience wasn’t worth it, but it was. You had good times and it’s important to remember those right now, and not the bad ones.
  8. It’s never wrong to fall in love. You might not see it right now, but this is a good thing. You felt something that many say they’ve never felt. It may have been a mistake, but you learned from it. Besides, it’s never wrong to be true to your emotions, even if you end up getting hurt.
  9. Be proud of your new scar. You know how you’re attracted to the bad boys with a scar? Now you have a new scar of your own, and it just makes you stronger and sexier. Everyone who sees you will know you’re wiser and more beautiful than ever before.
  10. You’ve still got plenty of love in your life. So your love wasn’t returned like you thought it was, but that’s just one person. Don’t forget about all the people who still love you. You have friends and family who’d do anything for you and right now, they want to help you heal.
  11. You’re still whole without him. You don’t need that guy to make you feel whole. You might be in pieces now, but you still have all of them and they can be put together again. You were whole before and you’re still whole now.
  12. It may happen again, but you’ll just get stronger. I wish I could say you’ll never be broken again, but I can’t. Your next relationship could end the same way. Don’t let this one experience prevent you from trying again. Even if it ends badly, you’ll heal and keep getting stronger.
  13. One day, you’ll love more than ever before. You probably won’t fall in love tomorrow, next week, or even six months from now. I know you need time and so do I. We’ll be okay and we’ll love again, even more than before. At least, one day you will. For now, take your time and just feel.
Crystal Crowder is a freelance writer and blogger. She's a tech geek at heart, but loves telling it like it is when it comes to love, beauty and style. She's enjoys writing music, poetry and fiction and curling up with a great book. You can find her on Twitter @ccrowderwrites or check out her other writing on Medium.