If Your Relationship Is Too Perfect, Here’s What Could Be Wrong With It

No relationship is perfect, and in fact, sometimes feeling like things are going a little too smoothly can actually point to relationship issues that are brewing and will inevitably explode. Here are 11 things that could be going on under that flawless surface.

1. You’re afraid to talk. You don’t want to talk about what’s wrong in your relationship because you’re walking on eggshells whenever your partner’s in the room. Maybe this is the case if your partner’s moody and prone to wild temper tantrums. By shutting up, you maintain the peace, sure, but at what cost?
2. You don’t know how to express yourself. You struggle when it comes to saying what’s on your mind and in your heart so you tend to let things slide. This can land you into dangerous territory because it can result in your needs being left unsatisfied, whether they’re physical, emotional, or mental. You end up getting much less than you deserve.
3. You don’t know how to communicate with each other. You and your partner might struggle to talk to each other. Maybe he’s a shouter or you interrupt him. Whatever the case, if you’re not talking about important issues, you can’t deal with any that might crop up. Things could get swept under the carpet and never get sorted out. That might be manageable when the issues are tiny, but over time they’ll become much bigger.
4. You’re filled with resentment. You have so much to resent about your partner but you’re not sure how to deal with all those dark feelings. You’re bottling them up but sooner or later you will burst and you’ll pop your “perfect couple” bubble along with it.
5. You want to have a Facebook-perfect relationship. You’re worried about how your relationship seems to the world. So, you always try to make sure that you and your boyfriend look awesome and happy AF in the photo albums you upload to social media. Forget that. What about what’s going on in your real life? That matters much more than how many likes you get online. You can’t cuddle up with likes at the end of the day.
6. You’re settling. Things might seem perfect but do they feel perfect? If you’re settling for your partner, then probably not. You have your blinders on and you’re going with the flow, instead of taking charge of your own destiny and happiness. Sure, this will get you an average relationship but not an amazing one.
7. You’re afraid to rock the boat. Maybe you worry that if you had to stand up for yourself or speak up, you’d scare the guy off. Maybe you’ve tried so hard to be the fun, carefree woman in your relationship, that you’re battling to keep that facade up, but you feel you have to otherwise you’ll lose your boyfriend. This is NOT a good sign.
8. He’s manipulating you. A guy who seems too good to be true probably is. He’s trying super hard to be the most charming, kind, amazing and helpful person in the world so that he can make you swoon over him. It won’t last, so if you feel that something’s just off about him, it’s best to get out now before you lose your heart to this guy. That showering of love in the early stages of a relationship are classic signs of a manipulator. 
9. You’ve had to change to make your relationship work. For example, maybe he said you had to be more chilled or less of a career-oriented person if you wanted to be in his life and you went along with it. Your friends might say that you and your BF seem like the perfect couple, but underneath the surface, your relationship is filled with all the sacrifices you’ve had to make. You have to ask yourself: are you really happy?
10. You’ve changed him. Maybe you weren’t the one you changed. Maybe you tried to change your partner because only when he got out of his rut, got a new job, stopped drinking so much or whatever could he be the man of your dreams. Maybe he hasn’t actually changed for good, though. If he didn’t work hard to change for his own reasons, then chances are he’s going to go back to his old ways at some point—and break your heart.
11. He’s great… on paper. He might seem like a practical choice. He might make logical sense because he ticks all your boxes. But in real life, it might be a different story, and maybe you don’t want to face that. For example, maybe he’s wonderful and everyone loves him, but you just don’t feel chemistry with him. Your head’s into him but not your heart. Or maybe he’s so great that he’s boring you! You might try to remind yourself of how amazing he is, but that doesn’t mean anything if you don’t love him.