If You’re His Girlfriend, You Shouldn’t Be Constantly Wondering These Things

Relationships are tough and sometimes you’re going to question your partner and whether or not your relationship has what it takes to make it down that potential aisle — that’s completely normal. However, if you’re constantly asking yourself any of these 12 questions, it might be time to consider more than whether or not your relationship can make it long-term — you might want to reflect on if you should be in this relationship at all:

  1. When Am I Going To Hear From Him? Is your boyfriend hot and cold? Some days he showers you with attention, but most days it’s as if you two aren’t even in a relationship. You never know what you’re going to get. Maybe he’ll call you today or maybe you’ll have to send 20 text messages in order for him to reply to one. Sound familiar? It’s not worth the headache.
  2. Does He Love Me? He’s told you he loves you but his actions tell a completely different story. No wonder you’re questioning if he really does love you or if that’s just something he says because he knows it’s what you want to hear. Actions speak louder than words. If he’s showing you that he doesn’t give a crap, believe him.
  3. Is He Cheating On Me? If you think he’s cheating, he probably is. Trust your gut and your instincts. Is he constantly lying and making you suspicious? Leave him. Even if he’s not cheating, he’s being shady, and you don’t need to be with someone you have to constantly worry about.
  4. Am I Happy? Happy people don’t have to question their own happiness. If you’re questioning it, there’s a good chance you’re miserable. Maybe your relationship started off good, but as time’s gone on, you’ve become increasingly more anxious about whether or not he’s the person for you. Sure, it could be nerves and your brain overanalyzing things — or it could be that you’ve outgrown the relationship.
  5. Does He See Me In His Future? You two should be able to talk about your future. If you’ve been together for a while, this conversation should’ve already happened. If it hasn’t, bring it up! Do you feel like you can’t bring it up? I wonder why.
  6. Do I Trust Him? It’s not just about cheating. Sure, it’s important that you trust him to remain faithful, but do you trust him to be there for you when you need him? Do you trust him to keep your secrets? Do you trust him to trust YOU when it really counts? No? There’s no point in being with someone you don’t trust.
  7. Am I In Love? Love is a feeling. It’s not something you have to analyze or make a pros and cons list for. Either you feel it or you don’t. Questioning whether you’re in love is like questioning whether you like chocolate — it’s a simple yes or no. The answer should be clear.
  8. Does He Care About Me? You should never have to wonder whether or not the person you’re with cares about you. That should be obvious! His actions and the way he talks to and about you should make you feel incredibly loved and respected. A good boyfriend doesn’t want his girlfriend to doubt his feelings, which is why he’ll make sure he proves them every single day.
  9. Do I Just Like The Idea Of Him? Do you love him or do you love the idea of him? It can be hard to tell. He might be the kind of guy you’ve always wanted to end up with, but now that you have, you feel like something’s missing. He has all the characteristics you’ve dreamed of in a partner, he’s just lacking that “thing” that makes you feel excited and complete.
  10. What Is He Thinking? He shouldn’t hide his thoughts from you! You aren’t a detective and it’s not fair that you have to figure out what he’s thinking. He should be straight up with you about everything. Dating him shouldn’t feel like a game of 20 questions.
  11. Why Did He Break Up With Me? If you’re dating someone who’s constantly breaking up with you, only to come running back a few days or weeks later, there’s a reason — and it’s not because commitment freaks him out. He sounds like the type of guy who wants to be with other women but doesn’t want to cheat. So, he breaks up with you, has sex with someone else, and then comes back when he’s done “exploring.” NOPE.
  12. Do I Want To Be In This Relationship? No, I don’t think you do. If you did you probably wouldn’t be asking this question — and you definitely wouldn’t be reading this article.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.