I’ll Never Give Up On Love, No Matter How Many Times I Get My Heart Broken

Dating, relationships, and love have never come easy for me. I’ve cried too many tears and put up with more BS than any woman should have to handle. I’m not playing the victim, though. I’m not going to let the rough patches get me down. I’ve had my fair share of heartbreak, but no matter how many times I’m broken, I’ll never give up on finding an amazing love. Here’s why:

  1. I was taught to get right back up again when I get knocked down. That’s elementary school stuff, but why wouldn’t it apply to the dating game too? I’m going to fall, but I’m just going to keep picking myself back up again. I won’t let the bad guys win and I won’t let the heartbreakers get me down. I’m better than that.
  2. I deserve real love. At least once in my life, I deserve to find the kind of love I’ve always dreamed of, don’t I? I believe in karma — what goes around comes around. After all the BS I’ve dealt with in my love life, I believe that one hell of a man is coming my way. I won’t go out of this game anything but a winner because I deserve real love. We all do.
  3. Heartbreak makes me stronger. It might hurt like hell, and I pray every time is the last time I have my heart broken, but with each setback, I find the strength to carry on. Going through the pain of losing love helps me know I’m strong enough to get through anything. I’ve done it once, twice, and I can do it again. I may not have enjoyed heartbreak, but it’s definitely made me a better friend, lover, and person through and through.
  4. I refuse to let my exes win. They may have broken my heart, but I’m not going to let them hold it hostage forever. They wasted enough of my time already. I’m not going to let them waste any more. They can’t break my spirit. Just because they hurt me doesn’t mean every guy will. I’m going to keep trying until I find the one guy who won’t let me down.
  5. The risk is still worth the reward. True love, a life partner and someone to grow old with — to me those things are priceless. I know the pain of having my heart broken and you know what? I survived. Heartbreak is one hell of a risk, but no matter what, I still think love is worth the gamble because when I find it, all the bad stuff will be worth it.
  6. Every failed relationship is a lesson learned. I’m choosing to be optimistic here. I’ve loved and I’ve lost, but every single relationship taught me something. I learned how to spot the red flags. I found out that not every man has the best intentions. I discovered my own flaws and how to overcome them. Through all the pain, I learned to look out for myself, and nothing can stop me now.
  7. I’m not going to let my past predict my future. I refuse to let life’s little bumps hold me back. I’ve been dumped on more than one occasion and it sucks, but it’s not the end of the world — I won’t let it be. I’m choosing to leave heartbreak where it belongs — in my past. I’m not giving up. I’m focusing on my future.
  8. At the end of the day, I’ll always want true love. I can’t see a day where that stops being something that I want. If I will always want love, why would I ever stop trying to find it? Life goals aren’t something you can accomplish in a day. Sometimes they really do take a lifetime, and I’m not afraid of that challenge.
  9. If I give up, then I only have myself to blame. I’ll have to live with the fact that I’m the reason I never found love. That’s way too big of a cross for my heart to bear. I don’t want to live with the regret of just not trying. The only real losers in love are the ones who gave up and surrendered, but I’ll fight for love until my dying days.
  10. I can’t turn off my feelings. I could try to stop taking chances. I could attempt to disregard every man I meet, but in the end I’m still a girl who wears her heart on her sleeve. If I have feelings for a guy, I can’t just turn them off. I can’t control how I feel and I can’t help who or when I love. The truth is that if love comes knocking, I’m always going to open the door.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.