Besides being able to treat me like the queen I clearly am, rich guys are the only guys I’ll date because they actually have their acts together. Not having to worry about money is obviously great, but there’s much more to exclusively going out with wealthy dudes besides the dollah bills.
- They’re usually older than me and have a certain level of maturity. I don’t need to spoon feed someone who’s less mature than I am. Guys who’ve made their own money (not living off Mommy and Daddy’s allowance) are usually older than I am and that’s the way I like it. I want a guy who knows how to support himself and has worked hard to get there. He’s probably had some decent life experiences too, making him less naive about relationships.
- I know he isn’t looking for a sugar mama. Not that I’m rolling in it, but I’ve dated guys in the past that have invited me to dinner and expected me to pay for both of us. I’m all for going Dutch and splitting the bill, but don’t invite me out to pay for you! If a guy has money, he probably isn’t looking for a free ride.
- Selfishly, I feel more secure. Not that I want a sugar daddy, but at least I know that if I ever have a drought, I won’t have to eat baked beans for the rest of the month. It’s nice to be treated every now and then and that doesn’t mean they have to spend a fortune. It does mean that they need to be able to afford transport to get to my place or at least have the money to cook dinner for two at his.
- They understand what hard work is and the rewards that come with it. My job doesn’t start at nine and finish at five. Just because I’ve left the office doesn’t mean work is over and I can leave it at the door. I rarely clock off and I’m still checking emails right before bed. This is because I love my job and I work hard at making freelancing a viable option. Rich guys tend to get this because they appreciate my “go hard or go home” attitude and my strong work ethic. Other guys tend to get annoyed and can’t understand why I can’t just switch off.
- They’re in a position to take the next step in a relationship. Whether that means they’re emotionally ready is a different question. In theory, they have enough money to start thinking about marriage and kids should the relationship work out. To me, there’s nothing more frustrating than seeing people struggle to pay rent every month and then hearing they’re trying to have a baby. WTF are they thinking?
- They’re a constant reminder of things I haven’t yet figured out. Guys with money usually know the importance of a savings account, keeping your taxes in order, and even putting money away for a pension. They’ve already been doing this for years and while I know it’s important, it’s so much easier to spend my month’s savings on a new pair of shoes. Knowing that they’re doing all that and splurging on whatever they want keeps me in check. It reminds me that I’m not where I want to be financially and I need to keep working hard even when I feel like giving up. Anything is possible.
- They know people from all walks of life. There’s a great saying; you don’t need to know the guy, you need to know the guy who knows the guy. This is unbelievably true. I don’t know the first thing about antiques but when I needed an antique dealer, my boyfriend was able to hook me up, not because he knew an antique guru but because he once worked with a guy who did. Rich guys have so many contacts from all over the world and you never know when they might come in useful.
- Having money does make things easier. There’s a lot more to life than money and I don’t believe it makes you happy, but it certainly makes things easier! There are fewer financial worries resulting in less stress and better quality sleep. In my experience, one of the most frequent arguments had by couples around me is about money and where it’s best spent. If you don’t have to budget that much, there’s a lot less to fight about.
- They usually have exciting goals of their own. It’s a lot easier to achieve your goals when you’re not constrained by money. I love the idea that my partner might have the opportunity to move to another country or start a business of their own—to do something just for them even if it’s not a big money maker. Having that financial net means these guys are more likely to pursue the big dream. My life goals are mine and mine alone, and I don’t want any guy to live vicariously through me, they need to have their own dream.
- Their lifestyle usually fits right into mine. I’m a realist. I don’t care how much I think I love a farmer from the deep south, that relationship is doomed before it even begins. Ultimately, I need to be in the city and I love apartment life. I enjoy going to sophisticated bars and getting dressed up for events. Living the rest of my life on a farm in the middle of nowhere is simply not going to work for me. Even if all I can afford is one glass of champagne on a Friday, I want that glass to be in the nicest possible setting. My guy could be wearing a suit from Zara and nursing one glass of wine all night for all I care, but this kind of lifestyle usually goes hand in hand with rich guys.
