Dating and sex are often a package deal, but I’ve decided to wait for the day that I walk down the aisle. I may seem old-fashioned and prudish, but I think waiting can be just as sexy as getting it on with your significant other. If you love having sex, that’s awesome and I hope you continue with what makes you happy! However, here’s why I’m proud of being a virgin:
- I No Longer Care What Guys Think. I have temptations just like everyone else, but when I sit a guy down and tell him we won’t be having sex, I don’t really care what he thinks. What I do with my body is no one’s decision but my own and if a guy’s worth it, he’ll be on board. Most guys are surprisingly receptive to my decision to wait until marriage (or at least say they are), and those that aren’t get the boot fast! It helps narrow down the dating pool to men that respect my decision and get rid of the boys that put sex first and their relationship second.
- I Love Connecting on a Non-Sexual Level. I’ve had some incredible relationships with guys because I know just how much we connect on an intellectual level. At the end of a long day, it’s definitely easier to climb in bed with someone rather than actually talk, but I want to know that my partner and I can sit and talk for hours on end without getting bored.
- I’ve Learned to Distinguish Sex from Being Sexy. When I first decided I wanted to wait for marriage, I thought this meant I’d no longer be considered attractive. After all, even people who wait a while in their relationships eventually do the deed. I was worried that I would be seen as ugly and boring. Through my experience, I’ve learned that sexy is showing off my personality and exuding confidence in my daily life, not how I perform in the bedroom. I may not be having sex, but I sure as hell feel sexy.
- Life is a hell of a lot less stressful. I’ve never in my life had to worry about my period being late or question whether I have an STD because things just aren’t right downstairs. It’s a really nice, stress-free perk to waiting.
- Breaking Down Stereotypes is Fun. One of the best parts to still being a virgin is the shock on people’s faces when they find out. I don’t know what a virgin is supposed to look like, but apparently I don’t fit the bill. It’s fun for me to see the confusion on people’s faces followed by a, “Seriously? Why?” exclamation.
- I Never Compare My Exes. I’ve had one too many friends complain about how their new guy just isn’t the same in bed as their ex. Lucky for me and my fellow virgins, I wouldn’t know how they differ at all! My first and my last will be the best I’ve ever had, and I’m pretty excited about that.
- I’ll Have Plenty of Time to Catch Up. If I had a dollar for every time someone told me, “You don’t know what you’re missing,” I would have enough money for my next car payment! Okay, not quite, but you get the point. I’m 22, not 52. I’ve barely cleared puberty (I was a late bloomer) and the plus side is that I’ll have plenty of time to make up for my lack of experience later on. Just because I haven’t had sex yet doesn’t mean I’m not stoked about when that time comes.
- It’ll be Worth It. I want my future husband to know, without a doubt, that he’s more important than every other guy I’ve ever dated. I never want him to feel inadequate sexually, and he’ll never have to worry about that since he’ll be the only one for me to compare to. I’ve always envisioned my wedding day as the day I get to show my husband just how much I love him. That’ll be the day that waiting will be even more worth it than it already is.
