I’m Amazing And I’ll Never Let A Guy Make Me Feel Otherwise

I’ve never been able to understand why some women let their boyfriends treat them like dirt or feel bad about themselves. There is literally no reason to keep a guy like that around. Honestly, life is hard enough. I’m never going to let how someone feels about me change my opinion of myself. Here’s why.

  1. I love myself, no matter how cheesy it is. People always say that you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. Yeah, it’s corny AF, but it’s also the truth. I’m not arrogant but I’m definitely strong, independent and confident. If someone doesn’t like me, that’s totally fine with me. I really don’t care. I have enough respect for myself to carry me through until I meet someone who truly gets me and what I’m all about.
  2. I’ve been there, done that. In the past, I’ve gotten pretty down about certain crushes not liking me back, and even as recent as this past spring, I let the fact that a guy didn’t want a relationship seriously bum me out. That’s not going to happen anymore. I don’t want to experience that sinking feeling that something is wrong because I know now that I’m cool the way that I am.
  3. I don’t have time to feel bad about myself. Everyone is crazy busy these days and I’m no different. Between work, friends, family, working out, dating and my PVR (in no particular order… although my PVR should really be up top), I’ve got a lot to juggle, like anyone else. I don’t have time to take out of my schedule to hate myself because a guy rejected me or didn’t think that I was good enough. I may not be right for him, but he’s not right for me, either.
  4. I’ve worked hard to get where I am. Confidence is not an easy thing. I could open up my Instagram feed and immediately think that I need a more exciting life or a thinner body. I’m not going to do that. While I’ve had my moments of wondering if I should look a certain way or if I’m not measuring up, I’ve trained myself to focus on my life and my goals. Since I’m not planning on losing my confidence anytime soon, I’m not going to let what any guy thinks matter. Because it really doesn’t.
  5. I know he’s not important. Any guy that thinks I’m not girlfriend material definitely isn’t boyfriend material. It’s really as simple as that. I would honestly never be attracted to someone who insulted me or thought that something was wrong with me. That kind of person is not for me, and he’s definitely not important.
  6. I’ve learned to love the single life. There are girls who can’t stand being on their own and need to be in a relationship at all times. That’s not me. I’ve enjoyed being single, I’ve hated it, and I’ve circled back around to being okay with where I am in my dating journey. I’m not going to suddenly crumble because of a rejection.
  7. I’d rather be strong and solo than someone’s miserable girlfriend. Whenever I wish that I was in a relationship, I tell myself that it’s so much better to be right here, right now, living my amazing single life than in a depressing relationship. Nothing sounds worse than being so trapped.
  8. I’ve seen the damage that can be done. I know that I’m stronger than so many women who have boyfriends. They let their BFs tell them what to do and they feel horrible about themselves. I’ve seen so many women completely change and become shadows of who they used to be thanks to the choices that they have made in their love lives. No thank you.
  9. I know that love shouldn’t be that hard. Sure, relationships aren’t super simple, and there are going to be tough times. But I also know that love shouldn’t be the most difficult thing ever and if a guy is trying to make me dislike myself, then he’s making things much harder than they have to be. I’m just not interested.
  10. I want to be a fully formed person before I’m with someone. I don’t believe that falling in love is going to make me whole or change who I am. I believe that falling in love is going to make me even better. That’s because I’m already amazing and the guy that I choose honestly has to believe that.
  11. I’m not going to change for anyone. If a friend doesn’t like my decisions or the way that I’m living my life, I’m going to stop talking to them. The same goes for a guy. I like who I am, I’ve gone through a lot to get where I am, and I’m not planning on changing now… or ever.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.