I’m Too Busy Being Awesome To Worry About Guys & Dating

I used to pine away for a boyfriend every time I was single, but not anymore. Now I understand the true value of time spent alone. I want to use my single life to better myself and grow into the badass woman I’m meant to be. Here’s why I’m much too busy to worry about when the next man will come into my life:

  1. I have so much going on in my life already. You can’t become a girl boss without a lot of hard work, and I fully intend to be one. I know that it takes time and effort, and I’m willing to put it in. I hardly have time for my friends and family, let alone a boyfriend. If a great guy comes along, that’s fine and would be a nice surprise. In the meantime, I have enough going on.
  2. I’m focused on my goals. There are certain things I want to accomplish in life and I’m bounded and determined to get them. I can’t let silly fantasies and romances get in the way of my dreams. I’ve worked too hard for too long to become sidetracked by a guy.
  3. I’m working towards my future. I will never be the kind of girl who allows herself to be defined a man. I’m my own person and I’ll stand up strong and independent. I don’t know what will happen, but I know that I’m committed to having the best and most fulfilling life I can. This has nothing to do with whatever man I end up loving.
  4. I’m busy all the time. Logistically, I find it nearly impossible to date. I’m not willing to sacrifice other priorities in my life for a man. I’m just not. Perhaps someday, someone will come along who changes all that, but for now, I’ll keep on plugging ahead. The benefit is that my time is always occupied. I never get sad or lonely because I’m too busy!
  5. There’s always something new and wonderful to do or see. I cannot understand anyone who’s ever bored. How could you be bored in this big wide crazy world? There’s always something new to explore or do or learn. Personally, I don’t think that anyone ever has an excuse for boredom. It’s a personal decision to remain bored, not reality.
  6. I love to fill my life with new adventures. Yeah, it’d be nice sometimes to have a companion. Mostly, though, I like getting to do what I want when I want. I love my freedom and independence. I can have whatever adventures I want at any time, and that’s pretty exciting.
  7. I want to try a million different things. I’m not a young girl anymore, but that doesn’t mean I can’t have new hobbies or learn new skills. There are so many different things I want to learn that there’s literally not enough time to do it all. I have a long bucket list — learning to ride a motorcycle, drive a stick shift, rock climb and ski, to name a few. And that’s just on the physical skill side of things!
  8. My friends are the best. I have a very difficult time justifying compromising nights with them just to go on a date. I’d rather be with people I already know and love. Why waste my precious time on some guy who probably won’t work out anyway? I love my friends and don’t spend nearly enough time with them as it is.
  9. I enjoy the people who are already in my life. I’m lucky to have a large and diverse group of friends. I would love to spend more time with those that I never see, getting to know and understand them better. I’m more committed to that idea than to going through a bunch of random strangers until I find someone who clicks. I’d rather do my thing and wait for that to happen naturally in its own time.
  10. I want to get to where I need to be for myself. I want to take the time I have now to be as selfish as I need. I have many goals to accomplish and personal milestones to obtain. I won’t get there if I’m spending all my time focused on a relationship. I would love to meet the right man someday, but I will always retain my independent nature. That’s the deal.
  11. I’m strong and independent. Any man who wants to change or suppress that is definitely the wrong man. I don’t suffer fools, especially men who try to alter who I am. It’s not going to happen. Get over it. I don’t care if that offends your little ego. That’s your problem, not mine.
  12. Life is already amazing. I count myself extremely lucky to live the life that I do. I never take it for granted, and I embrace all the freedom and opportunity I have. I will never compromise my love for life again. I’ve gotten trapped in unhappy relationships many a time. Next time around, I’ll wait for the right person who fits into the already wonderful life I lead. I’m happy already, and I’ll stay that way even if he never comes along.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.