I’m Finally Over Bad Boys, But Where The Hell Are The Good Guys?

I’m proud to say that I’m over bad boys once and for all. I’m done with the BS, and now all I want is a good man. The problem, though, is now that I’m at that stage, all the good guys seem to have disappeared. Where did they all go, and why can’t I find them?

  1. I’m over the drama. Bad boys can be passionate and entertaining because they always keep a woman on her toes, but it’s not all fun and games. All that passion brings a lot of drama, too. From now on, the only fire I want to see in a man’s eyes is a passion for me and only me, but I have yet to find a man like that.
  2. I want a man who’s going to treat me right. Bad boys are total heartbreakers. I’m over the BS, and now I just want a man who’s going to treat me right. Now that I’m in the right dating mindset, though, it seems as if I might be too late. The bad boys are players, but the good guys break their fair share of hearts too. So where are the men who are going to take love seriously?
  3. It feels like every man has commitment issues. Even men I meet that I think are good guys turn out to be too afraid to fall in love. They want to move so slowly that it feels like we’re actually moving backward or at least standing still. I just want a man who can commit to a real relationship, but men like that are either long gone or damn good at hiding.
  4. I finally realized what I deserve. I had total “bad boy syndrome”, but I finally realized that I deserve better. I was sick of all the pain and tears, and now that I’ve matured, I want a mature man too. I’m so happy that I finally realized I deserve better than what the bad boys could give me. I just wish I could find better, but that’s unfortunately starting to seem impossible.
  5. I don’t know where the good guys hang out. Where are they all hiding? Is there some secret “good guys club” where they all hang out? Because that would be nice to know. I go out to bars, clubs, restaurants, bookstores, coffee shops, and everywhere in between, but I just keep finding the same old bad boy tendencies. I don’t know where the good guys are hiding, but I wish for my sake (and every other woman’s) that they’d come out to play.
  6. I want real love. I’m living in a world that’s become ridiculously casual. I’m starting to wonder if there are still men out there who want to find real love and not just sex. I want a good man who’s going to love me the way I deserve, but no matter how hard I look, all I find is men who can’t care about me because they’re too busy caring about themselves.
  7. Bad boys keep disguising themselves as good guys. Too often I meet a guy who I think is one of the good ones. I’m often so grateful that I finally found a guy who has a real interest in having an actual relationship, but then it all turns out to be just an act. Bad boys are pretending to be the good guys just so they can get laid. So how am I supposed to spot the real good guys from the good actors?
  8. I can’t find a man with his act together. Every guy I meet seems to have some pretty serious problems. I’m not asking for some rich businessman with an amazing family and perfect life. I know that every man is going to have his issues — I just don’t want those issues to be related to dating. I finally have my life together; I’m just having a hard time finding a man who can say the same.
  9. I want a man I can actually trust. Bad boys don’t know the first thing about trust. I want a real relationship, though, and I know that trust will be the foundation. I’m looking for an honest man who can be open with me in order to build that trust. I just want a good guy, but the only men I meet are full of lies.
  10. I’m honestly afraid all the good men are taken. While I was having fun with the bad boys, the smart girls were snatching up the good guys. I might simply be too late. What if all the guys who are husband and boyfriend material are already being great partners to women who learned their bad boy lesson a lot faster than I did? All I want is a good man, but are they even out there?
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.