I’m not on a timeline when it comes to my love life. I don’t want to meet just anyone, I want to meet the RIGHT one and I’m not going to compromise on what I want just so I can say I’m in a relationship. After all, what’s the point in dating someone if I know from the beginning that he’s not my person? That’s why I’m holding out for a guy who has these qualities:
- He Doesn’t Purposely Wait To Respond To My Texts. A guy who doesn’t play games is the kind of guy I’m waiting for. Waiting days to text back and not responding to missed calls isn’t funny and I don’t get the point. Personally, if a guy waits days to text me back, I’m going to assume he died and then move on to the next one. I want someone who can come correct — text me back (hell, text me first), and make plans to see me in an adult manner.
- He Knows What He Wants. I don’t need a guy who has everything planned out, but I want him to at least have a rough outline for how he wants his life to go. Dating someone who doesn’t know what they want in terms of a relationship, career, etc. is annoying. I’m at the point in life where I don’t want to invest time and energy on someone who’s still “figuring things out.”
- He Isn’t Afraid To Be Vulnerable. I’m not an emotional person, but I want my partner to be. He shouldn’t be overly emotional to the point that he’s crying every time we have a fight — that’s too much drama for me — but I do want someone who can express his feelings in a non-passive-aggressive way. If his feelings are hurt by something I did, I’d like him to be mature enough to tell me that.
- He Has A Great Sense Of Style. This one might sound a little shallow, but whatever. I want a guy who has style. I outgrew playing with Barbies a long time ago — I have no interest in telling someone what to and what to wear. I’m not the fashion police and I don’t have a passion for dressing other people. I want the guy I’m dating to be able to throw an outfit together. That being said, I don’t want someone who’s way too concerned about their appearance to the point of being cocky. There has to be a happy medium.
- He Can Make Time For What’s Important. I’ve been in a relationship before where I didn’t feel like a priority and I don’t want to feel like that again. I want someone who can make time for things that are important — and yes, one of those things should be me. I’m not saying I should always come first, but I want a guy who has no problem re-arranging his schedule in order to spend time with me. Not always, but sometimes!
- He Really Knows Me (Or Really Makes An Effort To Get To Know Me). I don’t want to remind him when my birthday is — he should be able to set a reminder on his phone without being told — and I definitely don’t want to have to tell him what to buy me as a present. If we spend time together, he should know me. He should be able to pick up on what I like and what I hate.
- He Has A Good Relationship With His Family. Family is important to me and I want to be with someone who shares that value. He doesn’t have to hang out with his mom and dad every day, but I want someone who’s close with his parents, especially his mom. A guy who treats his mom well is a guy who was raised to respect women.
- He Knows How To Apologize. A lot of people can’t admit when they’re wrong and I’m sick of dating guys who think they’re too “manly” for apologies. I want a guy who can apologize when he messes up without me having to ask him to do so. Even if he doesn’t think he did anything wrong, I want him to be able to say sorry for inadvertently pissing me off and/or hurting my feelings.
- He Remembers The Little Things. I want a guy who pays attention to small things and actually remembers them; someone who knows details about me simply because he was watching is exactly what I’m looking for. However, I also want him to remember small details about both of our families and friends.
- He Makes Me A Better Person. I’m going to stay single until I find someone who makes me the best version of myself. I’m not looking for a guy to change me, I’m looking for a guy who’ll inspire me to do things I didn’t even know I wanted to do. I want him to give me a sense of security that’ll make me feel safe enough to tear down my own walls and put myself out there more in every aspect of my life.
