I’m Looking For My Equal, Not A Crutch

I take great pride in the fact that I’m an independent and self-sufficient woman and even though I’m single AF, I’m happy that my search for love is coming from a place of strength. I don’t need a guy to take care of me and frankly, I don’t want one. I’m looking for a partner who’s my equal, not my crutch. Here’s why:

  1. I make my own money. I’m not looking for some guy to pick up where I’m slacking when finances are concerned — I’ve put the roof over my head, the food on my table and the luxuries I want in my lap all on my own. When I look at a guy as a potential forever partner, it’s not about what he can provide me or how I can appear more valuable with him on my arm. I care more about how he makes me feel and that’s how it should be.
  2. I know how to take care of myself. I’ve been on my own for a long-ass time, so it’s pretty clear that I have no issue with surviving on my own. I do what I need to make sure my life is in order and that I’m continuing to grow myself as a person. My mission isn’t to find a guy to complete the pieces I can’t complete myself, it’s to find a partner I can share my already amazing life with.
  3. I’m emotionally self-dependent. As great as it would be to finally have someone special to share those emotional highs and lows with and support each other through the motions of life, it’s not something I truly need because I’ve learned to survive the struggle on my own. Instead, I’m looking for a support system that’s based purely on love, not out of need.
  4. I’m the woman you build an empire with. Because of what I bring to the table myself, I’m looking for the guy who’s going to match my hustle. I want us to take things to new levels as a team because we both work our asses off to get there. I don’t need a ladder to climb when I’m already climbing one of my own. I just need a guy who’s willing to climb up alongside me.
  5. I’m not looking for a guy to upgrade myself. The only way the right guy should be an upgrade in life is in the way that I carry myself and how he encourages me to better myself as a person on the inside. I don’t give a damn if he doesn’t have a yacht or covers my half of the mortgage payments; if he doesn’t make me feel truly loved and valued, it’s not worth it to me. I’ll pay my own way, thanks.
  6. The love I have to offer is nothing but real. I’m a deep soul and I want to give the person who’s right for me something that no money can buy — my genuine love and affections. Too many people focus on the material details and don’t see the person in front of them for who they truly are and I refuse to become another statistic.
  7. I have the luxury of choosing a partner instead of needing one. I’m getting on just fine by myself, so the love that I’m looking for in my life has nothing to do with money, status or how the outside world looks at what we have. This isn’t a small life decision, it’s a pretty big one and I intend on choosing the guy who’s truly right for me in every way.
  8. My search has taken longer because I’m fine on my own. It’s taken me a long ass time to find love and even if it’s been hard at times, I know the journey is completely worth the hassle. I haven’t settled yet and that’s because I’m looking for a unique set of qualities that can’t be defined by a piece of paper or a bank statement. I already know that the love waiting for me is going to be real AF because in the meantime, I’m happy and content living exactly the way I’m living now.
  9. I don’t care how long it takes. It could be another few weeks or another decade ahead- I really don’t care. What matters to be is meeting a guy who’s a true match for me. I want an equal, a partner in crime, a best friend who gets me and doesn’t feel like he owns me. I want a real relationship, not another leg to stand on — I already have two of my own.
  10. The only thing I’ll rely on my partner for is love. I’m proud to be the type of woman who isn’t looking for a guy just to help me survive. I’m looking for someone who will thrive beside me equally in the lives we’re already living. Love isn’t about material worth or having someone to support a lifestyle I can’t give myself. To me, it’s about having someone amazing to love who’s my equal in life, not my crutch.