I’m Looking For My Forever Person & I Won’t Settle Until I Find Them

Being single may not be a picnic but that doesn’t mean I’m going to say yes to the next guy who wants to be my boyfriend. I’m not looking for my right now person, I’m looking for my forever person. To be honest, settling sounds like the worst idea in the world to me so there’s no way in hell I’ll ever do it.

  1. I’ve made this far in my single girl journey. After being single for years and years, I’ve reached a place where I’m confident, calm, and ready to take the next step with someone. While some women might have given up a long time ago and settled, I’ve never wanted to. Since I’ve made it this far, I might as well go the distance and wait for the right guy.
  2. I’d rather be alone than with the wrong guy. I’ve ignored my gut instincts before and dated guys that were completely wrong for me. That taught me the most important lesson of all: that forcing a relationship is impossible. If I’m going to date the wrong guy, I’d rather be alone. At least I’ll be happy while I wait for someone who feels like the right fit.
  3. I’ve rejected some people along the way. Not to sound like the most conceited person ever, but there have been some guys who were interested in me over the past few years… and I just couldn’t see myself with them. It sucked to reject them, but since they weren’t guys I could see myself with long term, there was no point in dating them.
  4. I’ve watched too many friends settle. No one ever wants to admit that they’ve settled. It’s often pretty obvious, though, and I’ve seen friends settle for guys that they didn’t even care about and even said they weren’t attracted to. After witnessing those awkward AF relationships, I know I could never put myself in that position.
  5. I want a real love story despite how corny it sounds. Yeah, I get that being a hopeless romantic in this day in age is kind of ridiculous. My generation is all about texting and Netflix and dates that don’t even look like dates. And yet here I am, living out my single life while I wait for a real love story. It’s cheesy and I’m embracing that. If I settle, I’m not going to make anyone happy, let alone myself.
  6. I can’t stand wasting my own time. I’m super productive and efficient in my work life — why wouldn’t I apply that drive to my love life too? I can’t waste my own time by dating the wrong guys longer than I have to (aka the first date when I meet them and realize we’re not on the same page). Settling is the biggest time waster ever, no doubt about it, and it’s not for me.
  7. I get out of every crappy situation before it’s too late. No one can truly stop the possibility of a broken heart. Stuff happens and it’s all part of living. I know that but always make sure to tell a guy that things aren’t working out before I truly fall for him if it’s clear that we’re not meant to be. I’d rather leave than stay for several months and then admit the truth: that we never should’ve dated in the first place. Since I can always spot the red flags and weird moments, why would I settle?
  8. I’m worth being a real girlfriend. Anyone can settle. Anyone can say yes to the next person who asks them out on a second date… and let that turn into a third date… and soon it’s a relationship. However, I’m worth being a real girlfriend. I have a lot of awesome qualities and am proud of who I am, so I definitely want to wait for someone that I want to call my boyfriend and who wants me to be his girlfriend right back.
  9. I’m counting on the lessons that I’ve learned. Like any other single woman, I’ve got pages and pages of dating lessons. I can draw on these whenever I meet a new guy or are truly excited about someone. I would never settle because that would mean ignoring the fact that I actually know what I’m doing with this whole dating thing. I want to have the chance to use what I know and find the guy who’s totally and completely right for me, no doubt about it.
  10. I’m determined to keep trying to find love despite my track record. I’ve been on some truly epic bad dates… and lately, I’m okay with that. It’s obviously not the dating history that I wanted for myself and yet the older I get, the less my bad dates seem to matter. I’m determined to find love and don’t think that’s crazy. So what if most of my dates are horrible? Who cares if I can count the number of second dates and relationships I’ve had on one hand? As long as I stare straight head and keep trying, I don’t see any reason to settle so I’m not going to.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.