In this day and age, it’s considered progressive to ditch the values our parents and grandparents had and embrace a new kind of relationship culture. However, after seeing how popular Tinder is for people with these beliefs, I’m just going to stick with what I know and love, even if it means I’m just a traditional girl.
- I’VE MAINTAINED THE CONSERVATIVE BELIEFS I WAS RAISED WITH. I grew up in a very Christian, conservative home. Even after growing up and having lots of experiences in the real world, I still totally love the idea of having a traditional family role, taking care of my husband. I’ve stayed true to the beliefs my parents instilled in me when I was young and don’t regret any of the decisions I’ve made around what I believe.
- I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE A WIFE. I always knew that I wanted to be a wife someday. I wanted to find a man who I loved with my whole heart and give him everything he ever wanted. I wasn’t the little girly girl with my wedding totally planned. In fact, I was totally the opposite. I was a horse riding, barefoot tomboy, but I always knew my huge heart would belong to a wonderful man someday down the road.
- I LOVE TAKING CARE OF MY GUY. Nothing makes me happier than meeting my guy’s needs. I love being the person he can fall back on after a long day. He knows that I’ve always got his back and will be there for him for whatever he needs. As long as he treats me well and loves me the way he should, I’ll always be there for whatever he needs.
- I THINK THE MAN SHOULD PROVIDE FOR THE FAMILY. I also think that the man should be the main provider in a relationship. I have no problem letting him take the lead in our finances and making sure the bills are paid. I want to be with a man who puts our family as a first priority and works hard to make sure we’re all taken care of. We’re definitely a team but I want him to step up when big decisions need to be made.
- FAMILY ALWAYS COMES FIRST. As much as careers are important, family is my number one priority. I want to always be there for those closest to me, even if it means sacrificing other things. I want my family members to know that they can call me no matter what, and I don’t want to sacrifice relationships for success.
- MY MOM ALSO TAUGHT ME TO GO AFTER MY CAREER. Even though I totally love being a wife and living a family oriented life, I also want to have my own career. My mom was one of those who did it all—she was ambitious, put together, and an awesome wife and mom. She always encouraged me to have my own passions and be able to support myself even if I was with someone who could provide for me.
- I’VE ALWAYS BEEN AN OVERACHIEVER. I’ve always been a go-getter and had lots of ideas to work on. I could never see myself staying at home full time or just taking care of the kids. I want to have the freedom to pursue my dreams, even if it means doing it around my responsibilities as a wife and eventually a mom. I can’t imagine not going after the things I want to do in life—I just don’t want to compromise.
- I HAVE LOTS OF GOALS THAT DON’T INVOLVE MARRIAGE. Before I met the perfect guy for me, I was pursuing my goals and nothing has changed. There are lots of things I want to accomplish that have nothing to do with being married. I want to grow personally, have my own experiences, spend time with my own friends and continue to be an independent person even though I’m in a loving relationship. I want a relationship where we’re our own people while still being totally committed to each other.
- I WANT TO BE A SUCCESSFUL BUSINESSWOMAN. I want to own my own businesses, break glass ceilings, and work my butt off to be my own boss. I want to have the freedom to treat myself and have my own savings account, but not just for selfish reasons. I want to be able to treat my husband to an awesome birthday gift or a vacation on my tab where he doesn’t have to watch the bank account. I want to be able to contribute to our lifestyle and help take the pressure off of my husband to meet all the needs.
- I TRULY BELIEVE YOU CAN DO BOTH. At the end of the day, there are so many women out there who are totally killing it. They’re business women, boss babes and amazing wives and moms. I don’t think you should have to pick if you don’t want to. I love seeing women making their own destinies and I don’t think we should criticize each other, whether we want to stay at home or be the CEO. I’m so excited to learn how to balance all of those responsibilities and be the woman I want to be.
