I’m Moody & Emotionally Volatile & I Need A Guy Who Can Handle That

Depending on the time of the month and my stress level, I can turn into a moody monster. I’ve always had a difficult time controlling my emotions—even as a child I would throw tantrums at the grocery store—and while I’m working on it, I’m far from perfect. That’s why I need a very special kind of guy to be able to deal with my alter ego and wide array of emotions without judgment.

  1. I sometimes cry for no reason. I can cry over the silliest things and the last thing I need is a boyfriend who laughs at me for it. One time I cried because I saw a butterfly—that doesn’t even make sense! Who even does that?! I need a guy who takes these moments seriously and who can be patient when I’m getting emotional because God knows it happens a lot.
  2. I can get mean. I’m normally a really nice person but sometimes it’s like an evil monster comes out almost against my will. I’ll snap at people when I’m in this state and I just really hope that the guy I’m with doesn’t equate it to me hating him because it’s simply not true. These moments don’t make me a bad person and I really just need someone who gets that.
  3. They get worse when I’m on my period. I know I’m not alone in this. Most of the time I do blame my mood swings on my period (even when I don’t even have it) because it’s just easier that way. They do get exponentially worse when I actually have my period, almost to the point that I just want to be left alone. I get pouty and mad and sad all at the same time and I’d hope that my boyfriend can be there for me through it all.
  4. Sometimes, I just need to leave the room. If I get mad enough, sometimes I’ll just leave the room. Even if we’re out and walking down the street, I’ll just turn around and walk the other way. It’s really dramatic but it’s something I do to avoid making a scene. Whoever I’m with should be able to understand that it’s all about me and not make it about him.
  5. Yeah, I freak out over things—it doesn’t mean I’m crazy. I want to be with a guy who actually revels in the drama of it all and not get scared away when I “lose it” over something minor. Everyone has different thresholds of what they can handle and mine just caps off sooner than most. I lose my cool on the regular and I want my boyfriend to see that as normal and not judge me for being crazy.
  6. They’re out of my control. At the end of the day, my moodiness isn’t my fault. I’m a sensitive person and certain things just affect me a bit stronger than others. It’s the way I’ve always been—even as a kid I would cry for an hour if my mom didn’t buy the bunny stuffed animal that I wanted at the toy store. I cried over EVERYTHING and even though I’m 27, I’m still a big baby. It’s not my fault, it’s just the way I am.
  7. Just because I sometimes act like a bitch doesn’t mean I am one. Sure, I might throw a fit over something silly and maybe say something that I didn’t mean but it doesn’t make me a bad person. Even when I’m acting out, there’s a voice in the back of my head that’s like, “This isn’t me.” I know it’s coming from a place of hurt, fear, or anxiety. It’s not because I sincerely want to hurt him and I really hope he knows that.
  8. My bad mood will eventually pass. Just like a storm, my anger and moodiness will eventually pass, which is why finding a boyfriend who’s patient and understanding is key for me. While some guys will take my freakouts seriously, I know there are guys out there who can handle the drama and who may even enjoy helping me solve my many problems. It’s just a matter of knowing it when I find him.
  9. I need a guy who doesn’t stuff his emotions down. Some guys hide their emotions, especially sadness, which is why I tend to date guys who have a full palette of emotions. That way when I DO cry in front of them, they don’t get scared away or weirded out—they actually comfort me and understand that sometimes feelings just need to be released.
  10. It would be so easy for a guy to NOT date me. There are so many clear reasons as to why I’m not a good girlfriend. I’m unpredictable, I’m moody, I’m short tempered—I’m far from perfect. Is there a guy out there who would actually be able to handle that? I really hope so. Scratch that—I know so.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.