I’m More Attracted To My Boyfriend When He Doesn’t Shower—Is That Weird?

There’s something so robustly attractive about my boyfriend when he hasn’t showered. He just smells like him. It’s utterly intoxicating and I simply can’t get enough of it. I say long live the power of the sweat gland… to a point.

  1. It lets me know he’s truly comfortable around me. If he can’t be his sweaty self around me sometimes then he’s not really comfortable being the real deal. I would hate for him to be self-conscious about anything, especially when it’s just the two of us, so the fact that he’s happy enough to be a little bit stinky and knows that I’ll still love him is just great to me.
  2. It allows me to be a little more relaxed with hygiene too. It swings both ways, I’m glad that I can be pongy under the arms around him too and I never worry that he’ll find me unattractive. It’s a great boost of confidence and reminds me of how strong we are as a couple. It’s not like we purposely try to be gross but we’re human and it happens and it’s good to know it’s OK.
  3. I think it’s a wild instinct thing. I’m by no means a biologist, but I’m pretty sure I remember something about pheromones from my science lessons at school. Something along the lines of males and females of all kinds of species releasing them in order to attract the opposite sex—yeah, that sounds right! I think that’s why I really love it when he doesn’t shower so often. I’m just spellbound over his pheromones and it’s completely natural and animalistic.
  4. I find sprays and deodorants for guys very overpowering. On the contrary, I can’t seem to make the smell of any of my hygiene products last at all, no matter how many essential oils are in them. Meanwhile, guys’ products are always really pungent and can still be smelled hours after using them. Maybe it’s just me, but so many of them just remind of the stereotypical sleazy guy in a teenage movie who wears too much cologne in order to attract the ladies. I’d much rather my boyfriend smell like himself than leave a heavy odor of musk along his trail.
  5. It reminds me that he worked hard all day which is a serious turn-on. My guy works very hard and I know he does it to provide not just for himself but for our family (read: me and the dog). He wants to be able to treat us all whenever he can and I’m very turned on by a hard worker. If he’s a little smelly, it’s only a reminder of how hard he works. That’s the perfect combination of sexy and sweet.
  6. Only stale sweat smells like bad B.O. I’ve been there with the best of them on a packed subway car when some guy or girl reaches their arm up to hold onto the rail and BAM! A giant whiff of disgusting B.O. fills your nostrils and feel like it’ll never leave. That’s definitely not what I’m talking about when I say I love my boyfriend’s natural body odor. It’s not stale and it hasn’t been soaking into his clothes for days. It’s fresh, sweet-smelling sweat that is completely unique to him.
  7. It gives us the chance to have a midnight shower together. I much prefer to shower in the evenings so it’s a great opportunity for us to have a little quality time and do it together. Sure, our shower is pretty small and we often end up just laughing our heads off, but there are also tender moments like when he massages the shampoo into my head or kneads my upper back.
  8. He loves how I smell when I don’t shower either. It’s a win-win situation as he loves my unique smelliness too! He often remarks about it, and while I didn’t quite believe him in the beginning, he once licked my armpit to show his love and now I’m convinced.
  9. Of course, there’s always a cut-off point. Sometimes we spend all weekend in bed watching movies, having sex, and smoking like troopers. It’s a lot of fun and it feels like we’re cutting ourselves off from the world by staying in our own little bubble just for a couple of days. However, by Sunday night, we’re both pretty ripe and I don’t think either of us would be licking any armpits by that stage. Time to hit the showers.
Originally from Northen Ireland, I love to travel and I'm currently based in Paris, France. I'm a full time freelance writer and designer for my brand K Alexandra and a self confessed Paris addict! There's nowhere I'd rather be than the city of light and love with my little Boston terrier always by my side. I adore fashion and keeping up with the latest trends as well as appreciating a perfectly made dirty martini at the end of a productive day!